A lot of girls go out to the bar with the expectation of either getting approached or groped (not that we want to or not)… one of the two. Typically with an approach you end up with a nice little alcoholic beverage in your right hand, and new friend who you can probably rely on for a few drinks throughout the night. Its just part of the whole dating experience-the clubbing experience. A lot of girls have been programmed to expect that every guy who talks to them needs to buy them a drink. You have to buy the ticket to enjoy the show kind of dealio.
We all know that girls don’t go to the bar with a huge money clip to spend on drinks, dudes do. I myself have been that girl who would go to the club with $20 in my bra alongside my ID and end up home pretty gooned without any effort at all. Girls get a lot of stuff for free, especially in the nightclub scene. Free cabs, free drinks, free food, free cover, free coat-check, etc. Guys go out to the bar, they roll up with a huge wad of cash or end up starting a tab for the night. They rack up their credit cards buying girls drinks all night and splurge all their hard earned money on girls who wont even call them back the next day, or didn’t even give them your number. Saweeet. You are such a baller.
Lets Get Real
Guys, you can’t get a quality girl? You keep spending tons of moo-la at the club and don’t leave with any numbers? Who’s to blame? Yourself. You are crazy for thinking that just because you buy a girl a drink she needs to give you her number. You’re the one who offered her the drink willingly and it’s not as if she can read your mind anyways. You can’t buy the girl out to like you, well… not the right kind of girl. We are talking quality over quantity. Start a conversation, you are a really cool guy and you have a lot to offer besides a vodka cran. If you end up having a sweet conversation with a really cool chick, then yeah, by all means buy her a drink and proceed on with the conversation. Get to know her, take her to the dance floor and have a good time. Don’t be walking up to every good looking girl being like “Hey, can I buy you a drank?” Real original Mr. Suave. You sound desperate, and not to mention like you are trying to get the girl drunk in order for you to take her home. Red Flag!
Girls, you are crazy for walking up to a guy and actually asking for him to buy you a drink before you can really even have a conversation. The fact that this happens boggles my mind. After talking to my brother as well as a few other dude-friends, I was really shocked at how many girls will just walk up to a guy and ask for a drink. Don’t treat every dude like he’s your sugar daddy, you instantly look like an easy target and not to mention demanding. Can you say impotent? You can do better than that. The right guy isn’t going to let you walk all over him and be your personal drink daddy all night. He wants to get to know you and see what you are truly like, and if you guys ‘click.’ If he is not coming up to you asking if you would like a drink, I would probably take that as a good sign that he isn’t just trying to get in to your pants, he actually wants to talk. You want romance and deep connections, this is where it starts, and isn’t that what you have been moaning on about wanting to your girlfriends over Monday night Cosmo’s? Be open to it.
This social norm of buying drinks in order to get chicks isn’t the solution to you finding an awesome girl to take home to Mom. And the same goes for the ladies. If you can actually have an authentic conversation and build natural connection than that is far more valuable to you than a glass of gin.