Quality over Quantity is a question that’s been asked for ages, and it seems pretty straightforward what everyone wants. Everyone would love to have a quality individual, but there are a couple things that must happen before you can have the quality that you’re looking for.
The first thing is that you must figure out what your definition of quality is. I ask most guys what they look for in a girl and they reply “Nice legs, great smile, blonde.” Awesome. How many of those girls are there in Calgary right now? A vague definition of quality will leave you with a girl of quantity; but your mind will trick you into thinking she’s quality.
WHY QUALITY ALWAYS WINS
Physical characteristics are very important, don’t get me wrong. However the physical characteristics are superficial and shallow, and hold less importance when you’re searching for a quality girl. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have a mentally stable cutie than a psychopath smokeshow.
There are some crazy girls out there man. This isn’t just for the guys though, this is for the girls too. There are some crazy, creepy, needy guys out there. We all say we want the quality, because that just makes sense (unless you’re a prostitute, or think that getting girls makes you cool)… but have you defined what your quality should look like?
I know for me, I have. I’ve went through the psychopath smokeshows and it took a bit of self – convincing but finally I realized that it wasn’t worth it anymore. I finally realized that quality beats out any amount of quantity every day. I’ll take a medium rare steak over 5 McDonalds cheeseburgers any day.
“He’s just so sweet..”
How do you define your quality though? You need to understand what it is that you actually value in another person. Some of us are lucky enough to have shitty relationships, because when you have a shitty relationship you understand what it is that you’re NOT looking for. Are you learning your lessons, though? Or are you finding yourself falling into the same pitfall, with the same type of person over and over again.
A bad relationship is a contrast for what you do and don’t want. For example, let’s say that you dated an athlete from University, and at first he was really sweet. Than his sweetness turned to neediness, and he seemed to call you 3 times a day to make sure that he knew your schedule. You like a nice guy, but you draw the line at insecurity.
He was an athlete, so he’s confident. You’re looking for a sweet guy, but that guy was pretty needy. What’s the contrast to needy? Independent. Alright, so your definition of a quality guy would be a confident, independent, sweet guy.
The way I found out what I defined as quality was the day that I stopped talking to girls that couldn’t hold an intelligent conversation. My definition of quality is a girl who’s able to think on the next level, and develop some ideas with me. Looks are important, because looks are what sparks me to start the conversation in the first place. That’s when the screening process takes place though, and I find out if she’s the quality that I’m looking for.
Start today! Define your definition of quality, because if you don’t know what you’re looking for than you’ll never find it. Don’t just think about it though, write it down. When you write it down you have a reference point to come back to and see if that’s what you’re still looking for. People change, things change and priorities change but it’s important to understand where you are at this very moment so you can find that person that suits your ideal connection.
It Starts Today!
In your dating life, what are you looking for? Are you currently happy with where you’re at right now?
If you’re not happy with your dating life, get in contact with Kingpin Social. We’re here to help. We find that when we write these kinds of articles, a few people have troubles connecting the dots because they haven’t had the choice between quality or quantity throughout their lives, they’ve simply taken what’s been given to them. If you’re one of those people, male or female, send us a message and we can help.