“Me too!” She replies when you told her how much you love pugs!
It’s 3:35am. You have to be up in 3 hours for work. Fuck it. You’re on the phone with a cutie you’ve been seeing for a couple weeks now. The chat is going well. You’ve read the same books by Malcolm Gladwell and Dale Carnegie. Both of you love travelling and have been to Africa for a volunteer trip to build houses for the poor. There’s a lot of laughter and she really enjoys talking to you.
You have a lot of “Me too” moments. Awesome! You’re thinking in your head “OMG, this chick is not only hot, but really cool too.”
You’re madly infatuated.
You feel like it’s time to switch gears. You go Lance-Romance on her ass. You start opening up more to talk about intimate things. You start sharing your dreams, your goals and what you want to do in the future. You’re high as a kite, emotionally. Butterflies are flying around in your stomach like it’s the first day of spring, until her next question.
“So, how many girls have you slept with?”
You’re stumped. Your feeble attempt to change topic fails miserably. Now she’s on your ass hard, like a cop on a hot pursuit. You got arrested and you’re in a court trial. Anything you say could be and would be used against you. You feel cornered and she won’t talk to you unless she gets an answer. A number. Fuck!
Beware if you pull a number out of your ass. Too low and you’re lying. Too high and you’re a whore. Catch 22.
Fellas, if you get asked this question, fear not. I think it’s a good thing. It means she’s interested in you. She finds you attractive in one way, shape or form. She thinks you’re not a chump. There’s other girls that think you’re cute besides your grandmother. You have the capability of attracting other women so she concludes you won’t be clingy if she ends up going out with you.
So what do you say to this one?
Well, I’ll leave that up to you but I’ll give you my opinion.
Besides her obvious health concerns, there are other reasons why she’s asking you this. Pay attention ok? Not only does she not want to get STD, she’s also testing the waters to see if your past relationships still matter to you. Why? Because she doesn’t want to get hurt. Duh! It’s her way of patting you down emotionally to check if you’re free of emotional baggage and any attachment from your ex-girlfriends.
If you genuinely like her, give her reassurance that you’re focused on her now. Even the most confident of girls would appreciate this. Your past can’t be changed, she’s not stupid, but a few words of affirmation will quiet that little voice of doubt in her head. She wants to feel important, and possibly sees a future with you.
But bro seriously, how many girls have you slept with? I’m curious too.
Text me the number ok?