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Something Worth Fighting For.

It’s been awhile since I left my high paying corporate job and let me tell you, it’s been a crazy ride since then. According to research, an average person will have 3 to 5 different careers in their lifetime. I totally agree with that. Before I reached the age of 25, I’ve already surpassed that number. It’s not because I couldn’t keep a job but because I couldn’t stop my pursuit of passion. I had to find myself and find my purpose. The jobs and careers that I’ve had in the past left me asking, “Why am I on this planet and what the hell am I supposed to do?” I knew it had to be more than a mindless 9 to 5. My drive to find something else besides job security gave me the courage to admit to myself, “This sucks!” if it wasn’t working, leave and start over.

How about you?

Whatever you’re doing with your life right now, whether you already have a job, you’re still in school or just stuck in limbo, take a quick moment to think and ask yourself: “Is this something worth fighting for?”

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If you’re lost, confused and feel like there’s so much white space in the portrait of your life, fear not. This is the emotional reality of most people. Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating who you are. Everything is a process and it’s the things you do consistently that makes a difference, not the ones you do every now and then. No matter how long it takes, you have to find that thing to love enough and serve for. Find something that’s going to make you grow and help you contribute. Nobody said finding it was going to be easy, but when you do, best believe it will be worth it.

What do you really want to do in life? What’s something you will do with joy and excitement? Do you have a message that’s really important to you? What’s stopping you from pursuing it?

The myth of the overnight success happens only with lottery winners; it’s short lived and hard to sustain. Anything that’s worth it requires physical time, emotional energy, effort, sacrifice, commitment and discipline. All those things have to be in place for anyone to achieve anything extraordinary. Life will only allow you to keep the success you deserve and can handle.

In the end, weigh the pros and cons and see how much it actually means to you. You have to be driven by love and passion for what you’re doing, anything else just wouldn’t do. If you’re fueled by money, then you’re coming from a place of scarcity and fear. Don’t get me wrong, earning an income is definitely a key factor. It has to be looked at and considered but should never be the primary focus. Use money for what it’s meant for: a tool. People will feel the insincerity if you’re not real and genuine with what you’re doing. How far can you take your purpose as a vehicle will depend on what kind of fuel you’re putting in your gas tank. Having it fueled by passion will allow you to be more involved, be more creative. You’re more likely to dig deeper and build a solid foundation. Having it fueled by money, you’re only going to put in enough effort to get something done and get it out. A flash in the pan which is short lived and insubstantial.

Make that decision in your first moment of awareness that you’re going to own your day. Make a conscious decision that you’re going to put in effort and try. When you have something worth fighting for, it’s easy to find your courage every waking moment. It’s easy to win your daily battles. When you don’t have a lot of energy and it feels like your day is just dragging on then you haven’t found it just yet. Your purpose will define your thoughts and shape your actions. You owe it to yourself to find it. Living a life without purpose isn’t living; it’s merely just existing. That sucks!

The moment you find something worth fighting for, you’ll find your purpose and meaning. “The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”

What will it be for you?

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What Matters Most.

It’s almost Christmas and I have to admit, I’ve been too busy to actually notice. I’ve been busy at work, home and everywhere in between. It feels a little weird and I can’t seem to get into the season’s spirit. Instead of being joyful, the season feels more stressful. I remember when I finally got around Christmas shopping with my brother. The mall is a disaster this time of year. The roads are crammed and feel like it’s rush hour; finding parking is almost impossible and when you get to the mall, you’re not even sure exactly what you’re looking for. Instead of feeling jolly and festive, it feels more of a chore. I feel like I got caught up with preparing for the season that I actually forgot to enjoy it myself.

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I grew up in a small farm where we didn’t have much. We didn’t have fancy christmas trees decorated with bright lights. The closest thing we had to a mall was the wet market downtown. We didn’t have the latest and most advanced gadgets but I remember celebrating the holidays back there; everybody was warm and a lot more enjoyable to be around. Because we didn’t have the luxury of many external things, we relied more on what actually mattered. I remember the best holidays that I’ve had were abundant with laughters and memories with my family and closest friends. The joy that I felt was more sincere and fulfilling. The value exchange was more internal and long lasting compared to any material things.

Be self aware and put things into perspective. This season is a time to get together and enjoy the company of people that mean a lot to you. Christmas doesn’t have to be worldly-minded and commercialized. Be imaginative. Think about alternatives and a different approach for celebrating the holidays. At the end of the day, it’s not about how much money you can spend on expensive things; it’s about how personal and creative you can be. Be assertive at knowing other’s perception of value then find out what the most meaningful gift would be. Most of us have too many “things” in our lives anyway. Having more is not necessarily a bad thing but how do you make the season a lot more memorable? The best gifts I’ve received are usually things not bought from a store. I personally would rather get something they made with a heart felt hand written letter. Your words, thoughts and effort could mean so much more than anything they offer in the mall.

Despite the business of the season, slow down and take a deep breath. Remember what this time of the year really means. Don’t lose sight of what actually matters. You can always earn the money back but time wasted is gone for good. Put more effort into creating memories and building relationships, not in just buying the newest gadgets. At the end of the day, that’s what really matters more than what money could buy.

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When Things Don’t Work Out.

No matter how much effort you put in or how you plan things, it’s just not always going to go your way. There are factors that come into play you just can’t predict and control. Initially, it’s alright to be upset. It’s a normal reaction. It’s what you do after that makes a difference. Failure is an event and a temporary condition, the moment you give up is what makes it permanent. Be persistent and be creative when things don’t go as planned. There’s no cookie cutter approach to all your problems.

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Good decision requires a tranquil mind so approach the issue with clarity. Your effort will be wasted and misguided if a logical plan isn’t laid out. The first step is to always approach any issue in a clear and logical manner especially under heavy emotional pressure. Focus on the things within your control and be okay with the things that are not. Do what you can do right now. Recognize when you need help and don’t be afraid to ask for it. There’s only so much you can do. When things don’t workout, give yourself time and sit on it for a bit. Allow your subconscious mind to gnaw away at the issue at hand. Go for a walk to gain some freedom to focus on other things. Lack of distraction and feeling uninhibited allows your mind to generate insights.

Do your research, gather all the facts and investigate. From then on, formulate the best way to go about it. Find any cause and effect relationship or patterns. Ask yourself if you’ve gone through a similar situation in the past. If so, what did you do? By comparing it to something you’ve dealt with before, you can use similar problem solving skills to go about it. Realize that there is a solution to everything, but it will be difficult to see it if you’re so wrapped up that you can’t see anything but the problem.

When things don’t work out, you have a few options: you can point fingers and blame others or you can take responsibility for what happened. You can come up with many excuses why it’s not your fault or you can come up with just as much reasons on how you would fix it. You can spend your time and energy feeling resentment or you can use it to fuel your creativity to move things forward. You can protect your ego and view yourself as a victim of the situation or you can set it aside and make room to receive feedback. The choice is really up to you. What it comes down to is your perspective and how you view the world.

Learn from your mistakes. Take ownership of it but don’t view it personally. When things don’t work out, the flaw is not in the person but in the process. Reflect and evaluate the procedure you took and analyze where it could’ve been improved. Solving a big problem can be overwhelming and seem impossible but there’s a better way. View it as one big equation made of different components so you can break it down to smaller pieces. Identify all the parts it consists of and then figure out practical solutions that can be implemented right away. It may not solve the whole problem immediately but having the minor pieces taken care of builds positive momentum to encourage you to keep going.

Most of my biggest lessons that propelled me forward in life came from all my biggest mistakes. Take all the necessary lessons out of it and move on. View failure as an opportunity to learn. The more problems you solve, the more reference experience you’ll have for tackling future endeavors. So when things don’t workout, be open to it. Next time you encounter a similar situation, you’ll have a better idea on what to do.

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How To Get Things Done.

“15 more minutes,” I mumbled to myself as I’ve pressed the snooze button for the 3rd time already. I’ll be the first to admit, there are mornings when I don’t feel like getting up and doing the things that I have to do. Every day I battle self-defeating voices in my head that tells me: “It’s not going to work, what makes you think you’re any different.” Not seeing immediate results from pursuing my passion sometimes get the best out of me. The emotion of resistance keeps me underneath my blanket longer than usual. It’s tough and definitely discouraging but I know the more I repel the emotion, the more stress builds up.

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Have you ever had days like that?

I do my best to shake it off. I tell myself, “If this was a job, what would I do?” That mental statement creates a sense of urgency for me to be more accepting of the emotion and start moving towards the right direction. Inspiration is perishable. Do whatever it takes to be encouraged everyday, then act right away. You owe it to yourself. It’s easier to get more things accomplished when you have positive momentum. Make it easy to take action by creating a process for everything that you do. Any time a problem seems too complicated, break it down to smaller steps. Keep doing it until you have it all the way down to it’s common denominator. If you don’t know something and can’t decide then you end up not taking action. Begin with what you can do now even if it’s not perfect. You can always go back and change it as long as you have something down. Competence builds confidence.

Take yourself seriously and approach the things you have to do like it’s a job. Have that mindset and commitment that it’s non-negotiable. “If I can do this for my boss, why can’t I do it for myself?” is the way I see it. Nothing takes forever if it’s scheduled. Set realistic deadlines and see it all the way through. The only reason anything exist is because someone put in the time to develop an idea enough to be implemented.

“What’s something you would do for free?”

Your passion isn’t something that will have a huge pay off right away therefore it should be something you’ll gladly learn and make time for. Have faith and go after it relentlessly. Don’t treat it like a hobby. If you do, it will remain like one. Make it a priority, not just another fun thing to do when you have some spare time. All our lives we’ve been taught to create more options for ourselves, yet having too many creates a security blanket. Why strive for better if what you have now is good enough right? It’s going to be difficult to feel a real sense of urgency to change your situation if your basic needs are being met anyway. By limiting your options to the things that matter most, it’ll be easier for you to give your full focus. Your energy and creativity are limited resources that’s why it’s necessary to allocate them to what gives you the most value.

Quitting my corporate job helped me develop a do or die mentality. I’ve jumped over the 9 to 5 cliff and I don’t have the comfort of a steady bi-weekly pay cheque coming in anymore. I’m not telling you to quit your job if you don’t want but from my experience, having limited options developed real commitment. It forced me to seek out the right information to educate myself on where to begin. I still had to eat and pay my bills so I shifted my focus to only the things that gave me the most value. Change takes time, but it happens faster when you have a sense of urgency. Your next 12 months don’t have to look anything like your last 12. It’s the small things you do everyday that makes a difference in the long run, not the things you do occasionally. Figure out what it is that you aspire to fight for. Give yourself a more meaningful reason to get out of bed. It’s hard to do this if you’re only waking up to to drive yourself to the office and do something that’s uninspiring and meaningless to you. Urgency amplifies the parts of yourself that make you amazing. People are going to trust you and they’re going to be inspired by you. Now, be consistent with that and make that into your daily person.

Success isn’t in starting something, it’s finishing it. Having a sense of urgency will allow you to develop an idea to completion. What do you think? Comment below!

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The Man I Have To Be.

“Take a deep breath, bring yourself to the present moment and start thinking about how to give the most value.” was the reply that I got from a friend via text.

textingAnother weekend, another Bootcamp except this one’s different. I flew in to a brand new city all by myself for the first time. I have no clue where everything was; I didn’t know what the venues were like and the type of people that were going to be there. I felt a lot of resistance because of all the uncertainty. Unfamiliarity definitely breeds discomfort.

10pm. Game time.

The program started and off we went. I was at a busy night club with my student and things started out rough. I was trying to teach while my mind was going 1000 miles an hour. “Where’s my student? Where’s the next set? How is he doing? Oh, he’s leaning forward too much! Damn, he has to speak up and I told him to uncross his arms!” There were a lot of things going on in my head. I wanted this guy to have a phenomenal night; that’s why I was already thinking 10 steps ahead as if I could mentally change the circumstances. I became outcome dependent and I felt overwhelmed.

That’s when I sent out a text for some advice.

I read the reply and it was exactly what I needed. I closed my eyes for a moment; I took slow, deep breaths. I had to take things step by step which allowed me to be in the present moment. I had to eliminate my ego and get validation through the process of what I was doing. I had to let go of anything that tells me otherwise. By being aware of my environment and being assertive at taking action, I knew things were going to work out. It always does. Everything else was out of my control and the only thing I could rely on at any given point was my own emotion. I had to be comfortable, unreactive and action oriented during uncomfortable circumstances. Being somewhere new put myself in a no way out situation for developing courage; I really had no other choice. I didn’t have the safety net of anyone that I knew.

successI made a decision that I was going to embrace the emotion and face the source of why I felt the way I did. I had to face my ego and allow myself to accept things for what it is. I wanted to be a man of solution and integrity. This was something that I would only understand up until I do it. I had to set the bar and make things non-negotiable. I strengthened and reinforced my personal code of ethics on the spot. “Success is the only option.” I said to myself. Through fortitude and perseverance, I was able to be creative with my approach. I knew the difference between a great night and a bad one is the ability to act despite my personal emotions. It’s about looking comfortable whenever uncomfortable.

Ever had a similar experience?

If that’s the case, do yourself a favor and don’t resist the experiences that will give you a brand new emotional spectrum. Perspective is priceless! If you’ve never fucked up, then you’ve never tried anything new. Give yourself the opportunity to show yourself what you’re truly made of. How you respond to weird and awkward experiences will shape your character and develop emotional awareness. The feeling inside your body will manifest in your words and your actions. Whatever you feel, other people feel as well. The world is the external mirror of who you are internally therefore you should view every interaction as feed back. If they think you’re weird, don’t blame them. Instead, take full responsibility and assess your emotions. Let go of anything that tells you: you need to be someone else. Positively re-condition yourself that it feels good to be you.

By being aware of all the things you’ve gone through, you’ll start to form emotional stability. The more insights and reference experiences you have, the more emotional dots you’ll be able to connect. You can’t change or influence something you don’t know about. From all of this, you can pin point where you’re at in the emotional spectrum and act accordingly. If you’re scared, stressed or overwhelmed, it’s all good. Accept it for what it is and consciously shift your focus from your perceived problems to tangible solutions. Break it down and determine your next step. You’re more likely to act if you know what to do next.

If you haven’t actively spent time defining your values and boundaries, the person you are today is who you’ve become not who you really are.

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The Consequences of Inaction

“Nah, I’m good. I have a lot of other things to do.” I arrogantly told myself.

Up until recently, I’ve came up with every excuse in the book not to join Mikey B and Brian for Social Gym; a social training program where they approach a vast range of random people during the day, at any venue and try to build a real, genuine connection. No lines, no routines and you have to do it sober.

Dun. Dun. Dun.


People don’t take the first step if it seems to big. They get overwhelmed because they don’t know where to start so they end up not doing anything at all.

Over and over again, I fell into that trap.

I’ve been going out for quite some time now and a lot of people already know me. I’ve engineered my social environment so I’m always getting social proof and validation anywhere I go. At any given night, I take comfort in the fact that I’m going to run into someone I know. I felt like I’ve reached a certain level of success in my life at that point. I was socially pampered and I started getting comfortable. My ego was validated by language and it will do everything to protect itself. The I’ve-made-it mentality gave me an unrealistic and inaccurate image of who I was. The process has been neglected because of my fear of having an experience that will not support my current, self-inflated image of myself.

I didn’t want to push my comfort zone. I know if I get destroyed and rejected, my ego is invalidated. I didn’t want the smog of negative and distorted thoughts to pollute my brain. I know if that happens, I’ll have a negative mental snowball of unreasonable self talk.

“I’m such a piece of shit.”

Every time you see an opportunity and choose not to act on it, you’re training your indecisiveness. This is a big lesson that I’m still learning. If I’m just going about my regular day and see someone that I find interesting from my core, I have to act and tell them. Whether it’s an older gentleman with a style that’s on point or an absolutely drop dead gorgeous bombshell and everything in between. Every time I don’t, the wrong muscle is being developed and my decision making muscles are slowly atrophying. This may not happen overnight, but overtime things do add up. Inaction and procrastination can stunt your growth. Much like going to the gym, what you’ve accomplished up to this point is meaningless if you stop taking action. If you don’t keep sparking the flame, eventually the fire will go out.

Your body is built for survival and adaptability, it will only expend energy on things that is being used, and will eliminate and cut off parts that are not. That goes the same for your social skills.

There’s no need to beat yourself up and feel bad. In every moment, you either get better or you don’t. You don’t just coast through life and stay neutral. If you decide to act now then all your previous failures have been negated. Continue acting and you’re developing your social muscles to grow through a variety of interaction, not just exclusive to hot girls. You’ll feel good internally every time you make that decision to act based on logic, despite of how you feel. This is being process oriented opposed to being dependent purely on results. Every decision you make is one more rep in your social workout which brings you one rep closer to being socially fit.

By acting and doing things anyway, you’re creating a new mental anchor on how you filter the world. Now, you’ve attached good feelings to growth and negative feeling to inaction. Rejection is now viewed as feedback. Weigh the pros and cons. Yes, there are risks involved with acting and getting rejected but have you ever considered the risk of inaction? Reflect on all the things that you’re missing out. Not pushing for growth will save your ego for sure, at the same time limiting all your options for the kind of people you meet and everything else in life. We’re creatures of habit and how we do something, is how we do everything.

The only way to keep growing is think of yourself as a student and learn everyday. Keep your ego in check by putting yourself in situations where you could fail. Take that failure as feedback and analyze where you went wrong. Do an honest moral assessment so you can act accordingly next time you’re faced with a situation similar.

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Why You Should Try Going Out Solo.

“What’s the cab number, bro?” I asked my friend after I’ve gathered all my luggage from the car.

We just drove over 8 hours to another city for work, and I guess a little bit of vacation. I didn’t know where I was exactly and I definitely didn’t know anyone. I knew I was only going to be there for 4 days, I might as well make the most out of it. I was feeling adventurous so I asked my friends, “Hey, let’s go out.”

They shook their heads. “Nah dude, we’re tired” they replied.

“That’s cool.” I said nonchalantly.

I’m sure going out is the last thing in their minds after a long ass road trip. Fair enough.

The cab finally came. I ran outside, solo.

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I got in the cab and I’m not gonna lie, I was a little bit terrified.

Why?

I do fear the unknown and I’m by myself.

I still experience approach anxiety, just like everybody else. We’re all cut from the same cloth and I’m definitely not a special snow flake. The only difference is, I have better awareness and understanding of how my feelings affect my decisions.

I know how to deal with the emotion of resistance.

It’s easy to feel like the fuckin’ man if I go out with all my cool and jacked friends at a venue where everyone knew me. I had massive social proof and I didn’t feel the need to put myself out there as much. Familiarity builds comfort. I knew the staff and the bouncers therefore the whole night club was a giant comfort zone. I knew that if I get rejected or blown out, I had the social safety net of my friends and bar staff to back me up.

That said, I felt a lot of emotional resistance going out that night by myself. My ego was trying to protect it’s identity. It didn’t want to get hurt. What if I’m not the man that I thought I was?

All the more I wanted to go out and do it because I wanted to know.

Cam would always say, “Accept the feeling of resistance for what it is, remain unreactive and choose to act regardless.”

“I’m scared. Oh well, I’m going to do it anyway.” I said to myself. I took a deep breath, and started taking small, positive action. I was in the cab, might as well chat up the cab driver. I was socially warming up. I knew I had to keep doing it until I’ve built positive momentum. I understand that if I go through the fundamentals, I’m guaranteed to have a good time.

I made a decision to have fun that night, and I was going to do it regardless of how I felt.

Going out solo made me an independent person. I became someone that rolls to his own beat. I called my own shots instead of being lead all the time. I learned how to be aware of my surroundings and be assertive at taking action. Showing up at a club by myself left me with two options: I can have a great night or a lame one, plain and simple. I can man up and proactively meet new people or I can be a wall flower and sit by myself at the corner of the bar nursing my drink. I’m responsible for how great my night will be and the quality of connections I can have with people that I interact with.

Nowadays, I’ll make plans and invite people along the way. Whether they show up or not, it really wouldn’t matter. That wasn’t the case back in the day, I’ll tell you that much. If my friends didn’t want to go out on a Friday night, I’m screwed. Uncontrollable things happen so they call last minute and say “Sorry dude, I just don’t feel like it.” Do you know how many times I’ve stayed home because of that? I didn’t know how to take responsibility so I didn’t have a lot of choice.

Ever had that happen to you?

Going out by yourself feels liberating. It’s a good measure to see where you’re at and what you’re made of. Having the ability to connect with others definitely creates options. It also taught me to develop a relationship with myself. I genuinely think I’m a cool guy and everyone should meet me. I’ve learned to quiet that voice in my head that says “I’m not good enough.” If you like yourself, then you’ll have no problem going out on your own. Your goal should always be to learn and get better. The mere fact that you’re taking more action than the average person means that what they think of you shouldn’t matter.

 

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Do You Really Need That?

After I’ve packed up all my personal belongings and moved out of my parent’s house back in the day, I was shocked to see how much excess things I bought that I don’t even use anymore.

There it was, in my parent’s basement collecting dust. Boxes, after boxes. Pile, after pile. I shook my head in disbelief.

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“What a waste of money!” I said to myself in disappointment. Looking back now, I could’ve used all that money for something else.

You name it, I had it. I owned designer jeans by the dozens. I had a lot of overpriced bags, expensive shirts and other crap that I thought would make me cool. Don’t get me wrong, it definitely worked.

You know that feeling you get when you buy something new and you can’t wait to wear it? The moment you put it on, you feel like a brand new person. You naturally pull your shoulders back, puff up your chest with a knowing smile on your face. You have a swagger in your step and you feel extra fly. You feel different and you behave in a confident way that generates a positive response from others. It’s a quick fix and all you needed was some free time and a credit card.

“Holy shit, this is awesome!” your self-esteem recognizes that compliment and feels rewarded.

Subconsciously, your brain associates wearing new clothes with confidence. To the internally naive individual, this is a pit fall. It’s dangerous, and quite expensive, to rely on external things for validation. It’s true, shopping definitely has a therapeutic feel to it. The only problem is, the results are temporary and hard to sustain. When the novelty of the clothing piece wears off, there goes your self-esteem because your personal satisfaction is short lived.

I’m the first to admit, I like having nice things. I do enjoy them, just as much as the next brand whore. I still buy them and love wearing them. Except now, I have a different view on spending my hard earned money.

I use it to complement who I am and represent my personality, not make up for my shortcomings.

“Buy once, buy right.”

Nowadays, I would rather own a few timeless items that I really love than have a bunch of shitty ones I really don’t care for. I invested on a few pairs of well made shoes, high quality jeans, well fitting shirts and jackets. That’s it. Anything more than that is excessive. Things add up fast and by being efficient with how you spend your money with clothes, you can spend it on things that actually matter more.

Building relationships and giving value is always in style. Using your money to make someone’s day has a more rewarding feel to it than buying material crap. Great dinner with friends, creating experiences with your family, going to places you’ve never been to or even seminars to better yourself are some examples. Those memories will last you a life time because the exchange of value was a lot deeper. The experienced shared is more meaningful than something extremely shallow and superficial. You’ll find yourself happier and feel more fulfilled by doing this. The best investment you can make is with people and relationships.

So next time you stumble upon some extra cash and you’re itching to hit up the mall for some fresh threads, take a quick sec bro.

Think twice and ask yourself, “Do you really need that?”

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How To Avoid Missing Opportunities.

It’s Sunday afternoon.

You’re at the grocery store picking up food to cook for the week. It’s a struggle. You have a pounding hang over from your two day bender. Oh man, you’re hurting.

At the corner of the aisle, you turn around.

“Gasp!” You’re in shock.

There she is.

A stunner. The woman of your dreams. Your perfect “10!” You get excited and your heart starts pounding like a drum solo from your favorite rock song. You forgot what you were shopping for and all you could focus on is her.

Your eyes are locked and you’ve zoned out.

You want to approach. You know how to do this, you’ve done this a million times. You know what to say and how to win her over. Except you look like you just got out of bed. Well, maybe because you just did. Messy hair, baggy sweat pants and you didn’t even brush your teeth.

You let out a huge “Sigh.” in frustration.

There you are, left standing as you watch her disappear.

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Another missed opportunity.

I truly believe that success happens when preparation meets opportunity. Dressing up and grooming yourself is an essential part of the process of creating that gravitational vibe that you’ve been searching for. Always aim to put your best foot forward when you interact with the world. A sense of style that effectively communicates your personality sub communicates that you actually give a shit, therefore the people that you talk to will take you as seriously as you take yourself.

Wearing clothes that represent your personality is part of your personal preparation, setting you up for those opportunities.

I believe that your style is an external representation of who you are internally. The way you dress says a lot about your personality and your perceived self-worth. Over-sized sweatpants say “I don’t really care.” Frosted-tips and jeans with rhinestones scream “I’m overcompensating!” Your style is your external opener when you’re communicating with the our superficial society.

Did you know people have already formed an opinion of who you are within the first 7 seconds? How you portray yourself does make a difference and it’s just the way the world works. Your quick wit and charm may win them over after you’ve talk to them but that first impression always lingers. If it’s not favorable, then you’re going against the grain and giving yourself unnecessary roadblocks. Maybe that’s why the cutie you approached won’t give you the time of day because it looks like you don’t take yourself seriously.

Take assertiveness with the way you look. Take time to get ready because you never know when the right opportunity will come your way.