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Watch: How To Build A Career That Matters & Find Meaningful Work. Adam Poswolsky at TEDxMileHighYouth

My good friend Adam “Smiley” Poswolsky recently spoke at TEDxMileHighYouth about the quarter-life crisis millennials are facing and how we can all shift from going to jobs that leave us depressed and miserable to building a career that matters and finding meaningful work.

Life is only short once, don’t settle. Watch his TEDx talk below:

I’m also a big fan of Adam’s #1 Amazon bestseller, The Quarter-Life Breakthrough.

What do you think? Is having a career that matters important to you? Comment below.

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Podcast Interview: How to Overcome Bullying and Video Game Addiction (Danger & Play)

Blog-348x180Hey guys!

I was interviewed recently about how to overcome video game addiction.

In the episode I share details on my own story (how I overcame it) as well as the latest insights I’ve had over the past four years.

Here are six lessons you’ll learn in the episode:

  1. The two types of people you need to be aware of in your life (Hint: Haters!)
  2. How issues with masculinity, the school system and parenting contribute to video game addiction and poor social skills.
  3. How identity and social issues contribute to video game addiction and what to do about it.
  4. Why we play games and how understanding this can be powerful in learning about motivation.
  5. Key insights into the art of learning and how you can apply your skills in gaming to everything else.
  6. How important it is to get clear on what your goals are in life in order to really take things to the next level.

I think you’ll learn a lot from the episode so let me know what you think!

If any of you have any questions feel free to post them and I will respond to each one!

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The Surprising Truth About Rejection: Cam Adair @ TEDxFargo

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This post originally appeared on Medium. You can watch the video of the talk here.

On July 25th I took the TEDx stage in Fargo, ND and shared my most heartbreaking rejections and biggest humiliations in front of hundreds of people.

Yes, it was scary and vulnerable and the events I describe are kind of fucked up, but I did it for a good reason: I want to take the stigma of rejection and bullying out of our culture’s collective closet.

We each have our own stories of experiencing rejection. Some of them involve bullying, and others are merely a moment in time we put ourselves out there—we were vulnerable—and things didn’t work out how we wanted them to.

And it likely hurt us and caused real pain. I know it did for me. Tony Robbins says the two deepest human fears are the fear of not being good enough and the fear of not being loved.

Experiencing rejection validates both of these.

Our fear of rejection causes us to feel shame and pushes us to hide away. It dampens our own brilliance.

Do we share it with anyone? NO WAY! That would make us look weak and vulnerable. We keep our rejection a secret because we think it makes us unlovable. We’re afraid if we tell others, they’ll laugh at us, judge us, and make us feel even worse.

But that’s simply not true. I tried to hide my rejections for years and it just made everything worse.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Eventually, I discovered that seeking support and being open about my challenges made them easier to overcome, and made me feel much better.

By opening up it actually did the opposite of what I thought it would do. Instead of pushing people away, it brought them closer. By sharing my vulnerabilities it made others comfortable in sharing theirs, and this created a connection between us.

It was (and still is) uncomfortable to share, but learning how to let go of my own shame around rejection and instead using it as an opportunity to connect with others has been a major breakthrough in my life.

Rejection doesn’t define us. It doesn’t define you and it doesn’t define me. It’s simply part of each of our stories. Every person experiences rejection in some form and by letting go of the stigma, embracing courage and being vulnerable to share your own story, you’ll find the incredible gift of connecting more with others.

And that’s the surprising truth about rejection.

Please watch the video and let me know what you think.

If this message resonates with you, I’d love to hear about how rejection or bullying has impacted your life.

You can comment on the video, respond to this article or reach out on any of these mediums: Twitter, Facebook Page, YouTube, or Instagram.

Lastly, if you know of anyone who this message would impact, please pass the video on to them.

Photo credit: J. Alan Paul Photography

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An Interview on Valhalla’s Superhero Academy

valhalla-fb-instreamI recently had the pleasure of being featured on Valhalla’s Superhero Academy, a podcast with Marc Coppola.

Listen here: http://buff.ly/1rIzk6j
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In this episode you will learn:

  • The difference between having fun and being happy
  • The art of learning new skills
  • Key insights into motivation and applying it to your own life
  • Real emails I get on a daily basis from kids who share their struggles
  • The importance of why you want to do what you want to do

Listen here: http://buff.ly/1rIzk6j
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Cam has been selected to give ANOTHER TEDx talk!

tedx youth fargoBIG NEWS!!!!!!

On July 25th I will have the honor of giving another TEDx talk!

This one will be in Fargo at the TEDxYouth@Fargo event, and the topic will be on “Building Your Own Justice League.”

You know how growing up you always hear “it’s not what you know, it’s who you know?”

Well… nobody ever teaches you how to know any of those people. To make matters worse, when you add bullying into the equation, it’s common for us to isolate ourselves away from social experiences.

You know how they say “you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with?” Well, nobody ever tells you who they are and how to meet them.

This issue hits close to home for me because growing up I was bullied a lot and that caused me to isolate myself away playing video games. At the age of 20 I quit playing video games and decided to go off on a journey to learn how to make friends and connect with people.

To learn how to surround myself by those who inspire me, instead of those who seem to have some weird mission to make my day miserable.

Currently up to 30% of Americans would be classified as “lonely” by the UCLA Loneliness Scale. Emotional isolation has been found to be as deadly as smoking. Seriously!

Anyways, I’m PSYCHED to share this personal story of mine to hopefully open the light for so many others I know are going through similar experiences.

Tickets here: http://bit.ly/tedxyouthfargo

Special thanks first to Andrew Hyde, George Morris and Erin Weed who first believed in me, and to Greg Tehven for helping with this next TEDxYouth@Fargo talk and of course my Mom because she always deserves a shoutout!

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Developing Social Skills – An Interview on Dudesday Podcast (E10)

My friend Mike Sokolowski recently interviewed me on Dudesday podcast.

Listen and download for free here

In this episode you will learn:

– How to personalize your learning to create your own path and go after what you want in the world.
– An important insight into personality traits and how to harness them for good instead of evil.
– A process to build community and leverage it to build a business.
– How I told my parents I was dropping out of high school (twice), and what they thought about it.
– 2 key lessons of asking for forgiveness instead of asking for permission.

Want to develop YOUR social skills?

I’m currently accepting 2 clients for my coaching program. If you want to develop your social skills, build your confidence and surround yourself by people who inspire you, email me and I can share more with you about it.

Here’s what one client emailed me recently: “I had a great conversation with this girl that I met at a coffee shop this evening and thought I’d let you know! The outcome would have probably been very different before April.”

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Addicted to Video Games: An Interview on the Art of Charm (E274)

Listen and download for free here. Subscribe to the podcast here.

the art of charm podcast6 years ago when I got into this whole develop your social skills thing I found a website that had a profound impact on my life, The Art of Charm, founded by Jordan Harbinger.

Regularly I would tune in to their podcast and implement the advice into my own direct experiences. (The other resource I used a lot was Andrew Warner’s Mixergy.)

Fast forward to a few months ago. I’m in San Francisco visiting friends and I reach out to Andrew Warner. He invites me to a scotch night he’s hosting for a few friends. I show up not knowing what to expect and you’ll never guess who’s there: Jordan Harbinger. A few weeks later we’ve had a few conversations and he invites me to be a guest on the podcast. How cool is that?

Listen and download for free here. Subscribe to the podcast here.

The Art of Charm brings together the best coaches in the industry to teach you guys how to crush it in life, love and at work. Imagine having a mix of experienced mentors teaching you their expertise packing decades of research, testing and tough lessons into a concise curriculum.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Is video game addiction real?
  • How video game addiction looks at its worse, practical tips for getting over your addiction and how to make up for the lost time.
  • How to surround yourself by people that matter.
  • The concept of reverse engineering, a framework for accomplishing your goals.
  • The key lesson I learned after working as a dishwasher at a restaurant.
  • How to deal with and overcome a deep and dark depression.
  • How to transition from a 9-5 job to running your own business.
  • A major insight into my experiences being bullied in school and what to do if you are being bullied.

Listen and download for free here. Subscribe to the podcast here.

Want to develop YOUR social skills?

I’m currently accepting 2 clients for my coaching program. If you want to develop your social skills, build your confidence and surround yourself by people who inspire you, email me and I can share more with you about it.

Here’s what one client emailed me recently: “I had a great conversation with this girl that I met at a coffee shop this evening and thought I’d let you know! The outcome would have probably been very different before April.”

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In The Media: CW’s Daybreak Features Cam on Video Game Addiction

kwgn_logoOn August 30th I had the pleasure of appearing on CW’s Daybreak segment to talk about video game addiction in advance of my upcoming TEDx talk in Boulder, CO on September 21st.

You can watch the video here

This was my first TV appearance. Although I was nervous, I feel pretty good about how I did.

What do you think? Did I do alright?

I’m really excited to have been featured because this opens up many more doors for us to get our message out there. Although it’s a small segment, the social proof will make a tremendous difference in our ability to attract more press in the future. I will continue to do whatever I can to help spread our message as a community further.

We’re launching a program soon to help you (or someone you know) quit playing video games. Sign up for updates by going here.

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Cam has been selected to give a TEDx talk!

texI’m thrilled to finally announce the big news I received last week!

On September 21st I will have the honor of speaking at TEDxBoulder on the topic of video game addiction.

This has been a dream of mine for a long time and I couldn’t be more excited to stand on stage and be a voice for a community of people I believe are being left behind.

Why I Care

For over 10 years I was addicted to video games. This addiction left me feeling trapped, and I hated myself for it. Every day I consciously wasted my potential, not knowing how to fix the pain I experienced.

This addiction affected many areas of my life including being a major influence in my decision to drop out of high school at the age of 15.

Finally, in March 2010, I decided to quit forever and since that day the decision to quit playing video games has been the greatest gift I’ve ever given myself, so I decided to share my story. I wrote an article online about how to quit playing video games and the response has been overwhelming with over 960+ comments from people all aroudn the world and of all ages.

This article has now become the #1 resource on the internet for quitting video games and has now been read by over 200,000 people worldwide.

Unfortunately, too often the conversation around video games focuses on whether you should play or not, when that’s like saying should you drink or not, if you can do it in moderation who cares, but what if you can’t? What if right now you’re sitting at home playing video games and you want to stop and don’t know how?

Current research suggests that 91% of kids ages 2-17 (64 million) are gaming in the U.S. with the fastest growing age group kids ages 2-5. In fact, in the U.K., 10% more children ages 2-5 are able to operate a smartphone application than are able to tie their own shoes.

Video game addiction is a growing problem with a serious lack of attention.

I’ve developed a framework to help people get over their addiction to video games, so I hope you’ll join me at TEDxBoulder on September 21st.

Thank you to the organizers for selecting me, fellow speakers for having their own courage and everybody who encouraged me to pursue this opportunity.

You can purchase tickets and learn more about the event here: http://tedxboulder.com/