And it usually happens when we least expect it. I’ve had a lot of shit happen to me but I’m not gonna go through much detail about them.
Look, I’m not here to take sympathy cards. I am here to share some lessons I’ve learned to stay on top, not just cope, but even come out better!
- It’s not Permanent
When shit happens it’s all good to feel like crap at first, it’s a normal reaction. Just remember, being defeated is a temporary condition, giving up is what makes it permanent.
- Perspective is Priceless.
I didn’t buy the first car I test drove. There was nothing wrong with it, it’s just not what I wanted. It would’ve been perfect for somebody else, just not for me.
It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you frame it. Your outlook is a direct reflection of how you see yourself. When a girl at the bar rejects you, do you say “Fuck, I’m such a piece of shit?” Hell no. “We’re just not compatible” is how I like it.
- Creativity is a Must
When shit happens, it breaks your day to day routine. Instead of moping around and feeling sorry for yourself, focus on what you “can do” rather than what you can’t. I pinched a nerve in my neck which set me back from training for 6 months. K, fine so I couldn’t train, what did I do? I started writing, I read dozens of great books, blogs and articles in 6 months that planted seeds of ideas, learned how to build a website, found a more efficient way to eat and train and met dozens and dozens fantastic people with great perspective. I guess being injured was a blessing that I needed.
- Be Relentless
“I don’t know how” translates to “I don’t want it bad enough.” It is a poor excuse. That tells me you want more but you’re way too comfortable to do anything about it. Remember, the enemy of “great” isn’t “bad” but “good enough.” We live in a world where the information you need is a mouse click away. Google this, YouTube that, Facebook this person and Voila!
- Don’t make a Plan, sort of.
It’s all cool to make a plan when shit happens. It looks great on paper, but sometimes it doesn’t translate directly in the real world. Don’t be attached to it. Things change moment to moment, then what? Your 20 page life plan is now useless. That’s like planning to win a chess game and having all your moves written out before you even play. That’s impossible! Define your destination, follow through and make adjustments along the way, kinda like driving with a GPS.
- Surround Yourself With Good People
“Oh that sucks man” The last thing I want to hear when shit happens is how crappy the situation is. I need solutions, not sympathy. I need people to kick my ass and tell me “Hey man, it’s all good, don’t worry about it.” You are the average of your five closest friends. Evaluate yourself. Are you broke? Out of shape? Depressed? In a shitty relationship? Where are you getting your advice from anyway?
What do you think? What do you do when shit happens? Let me know by commenting below.