How to Kick Yourself in the Ass

by Brian

“I Want to Grow..”

You’ve made the smart decision! You’ve decided that mediocrity isn’t the road you want to find yourself on for the rest of your life. After all, it is your life. There’s so many things you want to get better at though. You want to get a better job, you want to have a richer dating life, you want to pursue your passion as a painter. It seems that there’s not enough time in the day for all of the things that you want to do.

This is the rut that I experienced for a very long period of time. I’ve found over the past month I’ve been able to be 10x more efficient by prioritizing what I need to do, and how it needs to get done. I, myself have a lot of things that I need to get done, and trying to get them all done at once makes me want to pull the bald hair off my head.

The first step to prioritizing was that understanding that everything was a process. Improving your dating life is a process, getting a better job is a process, pursuing your passion is a process, and so on. There isn’t going to be one day when you wake up and realize that your dating life is super badass, because you’ve been focusing all of your energy on it. If you’re stupid enough to fall into this pitfall, you’ll start to realize that all of the other areas that you want to grow in have faltered.

First you must figure out what areas that you want to grow in. Let’s say it’s your dating life, your career, your family life, your social life and your passion. One must find a way to balance each one of these things, so that they’re growing within that area each and every single day. Balance is the key.

See if I focus all of my energy on improving my career, and I do this for a month straight… I’m likely to notice that my dating life has faltered, I haven’t called my family in awhile and the friendships I have start to drift. I probably haven’t picked up a paintbrush in awhile either, and this is something that I’ve claimed to “love” doing.

Sound familiar?

Balance is the key. One must understand that this life is a process, and every day you must wake up and decide to become better in the areas of life that you want to get better in. This means, if you love painting, you don’t get up one day and decide you’re going to paint a canvas. This means that one day, you’re going to wake up and set aside an hour to paint today, because it’s something you love to do.

Once you figure out the areas that you want to grow, and you understand that it’s all a process, you must continue on and make sure that you’re prioritizing what you want to grow. Then you must make sure that you are growing in the top three areas first and foremost, and everything else takes a temporary backseat if your time is limited.

I want to improve my dating life, my career, my passion, my family life and my social life, improve my fitness and… oh yeah. I’ve gotta sleep.

Keep all factors of life in mind when making this list. Understand that you have to pay bills, your time is limited and that even if you want to become a painter, you still must have food in your stomach before you’ll have the energy to pick up a paintbrush. Some universal eaters of time are going to be sleep, eating, cleaning, etc.

Organize YOUR Life

Then make a list, keeping in mind all factors of life.

  1. Career
  2. Passion
  3. Physical Fitness
  4. Dating Life
  5. Social Life
  6. Family Life

Now when you’re making your schedule, you can take into account which of these areas need that time set aside each day to grow, because you know what areas you find most valuable. Growth is valuable in all areas, but what do you value most? If you don’t understand this, you may be growing exponentially in the wrong areas on your priority list. I know I was, before I made my list… which now looks like this:

  1. Kingpin Social
  2. Roadhouse
  3. Writing
  4. Working Out
  5. Social Time
  6. Sleep
  7. Reading

When I’m making my calendar, I’m ensuring that the things that are at the top of my list are getting hit first, and the things at the bottom of the list are the ones that suffer if my time is limited. These things are ALL important to me, because they’re on my list of priorities, but there are areas that I need to grow in the most and these are those areas (keeping in mind that I’ve still gotta pay the bills).

Make a list! Prioritize. Getting better doesn’t start tomorrow, it starts today. The longer you wait, the more you procrastinate. Decide to get up and take action right now, because it’s your mo – fuggin life. May as well spend it doing shit you love to do.

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About Brian
Brian is a firm believer in living in the present. Brian lives his life by the philosophy “Act for the future, not because of the past.” He is a passionate writer, a sober socialite and aspires to be a positive influence to everyone he interacts with. Read more about Brian here.

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