You like long walks on the beach. You love reading poetry. You are a wine connoisseur and very well traveled. You’re fluent in six different languages. You’re intelligent and have a lot of interesting stories to share. You seem like an internally sound guy but you never get far enough in the interaction with girls to convey all of this.
How come dude?
It’s going to be difficult to communicate to the girl-next-door you’ve been dreaming about you’re not a douche bag when you’re dressed like you’re auditioning for Jersey Shore’s next season.
But everyone’s wearing this and you just want to fit in, right?
Trust me, I get it. I’ve been that guy too. Everybody wants to have security from feeling a sense of belongingness. Your environment will have a profound effect on who you turn out to be. Unfortunately, society perpetuates the external and superficial things to be the pinnacle of success. Fake tan, designer clothes and sunglasses at night says “I’m cool, and I have money.”
Do people cringe when you walk by them? How do you think they perceive you? Is it congruent to who you are? What kind of girls are you marketing yourself to?
Picture your ideal lady in your head dude. What is she wearing?
Alright, put yourself in her shoes. See yourself through her eyes. What do you think she will find attractive in terms of style?
The way you dress speaks volumes about who you are as a person and what you value. The clothes you wear should be congruent to your personality. It’s so simple and obvious that’s why most people miss it. They make it more complicated than it really is.
You attract who you are. Enough said.
The way you put together an outfit acts as a filter towards the people you meet. Dressing like a drug dealer will probably attract girls that get into all sorts of mischief, bringing more crap you’ll want to put up with. Tailor your style to the quality of girl you want to attract, now we’re talking.
Be smart and cater your image to the people you want in your life.
If you’re dope and you’re attracting girls with a lot of personal drama, you might want to take a step back and reflect on how you’re portraying yourself. First impressions leave a lasting taste in her mental buds. Your image serves as your signature visual flavor.
So before you leave your house next time, think about what what your clothes say.