How’s everybodyyyy doiinnnnnn?
Have you ever had a moment where something so obvious just finally clicks? Do you ever have these? Epiphanies? Don’t you just love them?
The other night I was laying in my bed, trying to fall asleep, when a thought came to my mind and it all** finally made sense.
Growth Never Ends.
This one is kind of silly to me, because it’s so obvious. Think about it. Of fucking course growth never ends, you can always get better. Whether or not you are growing… that is another question.
The fact that growth never ends also provides even more logical evidence as to why you should focus on the process instead results because the process is the only thing that exists!
Let me ask you this: When you finally get the results you were chasing, and reach that next level… what is the difference between this and a plateau?
Nothing but perspective. If you hit that next level and become content, that “next level” quickly becomes a plateau. The only difference is whether or not your mentality has shifted, changing your perspective.
If you continue to grow after that next level, it won’t be a plateau. And since the process is the only thing that exists, you have no choice but to enjoy the fuck out of it.
“If you’re not growing, you’re dying.”
So, what is the quickest way to grow?
Pushing your comfort zone.
When you push your comfort zone, you grow. It’s as easy as that. The bigger the comfort zone, the bigger your growth. Simple stuff.
“Everything is outside your comfort zone, otherwise you would already have It.” –David DeAngelo
Now pushing your comfort zones can be difficult. I completely understand that. Some guys are successful in doing this, and others not so much. So what’s the difference?
A friend and fellow blogger has a great quote that describes this perfectly:
“Approach fear with curiosity.”
When you become curious to see how you will react in uncomfortable situations – fears, comfort zones or otherwise – you are definitely on the right path to massive growth. Studying Social Dynamics develops this mindset. And since you are studying Social Dynamics and not just pickup, you push a greater range of comfort zones, and grow into a more natural, “normal” (socially calibrated), well-rounded dude.
You begin to approach life with curiosity. You begin to influence the world with positivity. When you realize that you are a positive influence on the world, that you are actually making a difference, you stop walking through life numb, stoned, and paralyzed… and begin to feel alive. You gain presence – the ultimate gift to give.
Yesterday while quickly scanning my twitterfeed, I came across this quote:
“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest.” ~Pema Chodron
Your true presence is your ultimate gift to give. Is there anything better? To get there you must grow, and grow a lot – grow every day. It starts and ends with comfort zones, by being assertive in putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, by throwing yourself out of your nest.
Only then will you truly live. Only then will you know what you are truly made of. Who you truly are.
What else would you exist for?
Exist to live.
Who’s with me?