So you really dig this girl, and maybe you dig a few of her other friends but not really as much as her. You get this ‘brilliant’ idea that instead of making a connection with the one you really desire that you submerge yourself in the entire group of friends to make her jealous. Hey, can’t hurt right? Wrong. Not saying that this technique doesn’t work, as I am sure it has, but it’s only a short term solution to the bigger issue. The bigger issue being the fact you have to manipulate a girl to make her jealous in order for her to desire you. I thought you were a really cool guy? Can’t you make her see that without playing on her insecurities and screwing around with girls you think are sub-par?
This idea of the “Jealousy Plotline” takes value from every girl in that social circle (talk about bad karma) and in the end what do you really end up with? After you land the one you want and that fizzles out, due to her incredible insecurity that you created, you wind up with a whole clan of girls who will cock block you till no end. Success! A group of girls who actually have a personal vendetta targeted on your ass and every mutual friend of theirs included. Now all those awesome girls are fish dead in the perivial dating sea. Not to mention how many bridges you burned over trying to get one girl, throwing away options in becoming a socially prominent dude.
Crash and burn, baby
Jealousy isn’t that attractive as it is built off of negative thoughts, fear, and insecurities. Building a connection on jealousy is setting yourself up for failure. The relationship is already doomed to fail cause you’ve already managed to make her feel insecure, and not worthy. Thus taking an incredible amount of value from her which builds up resentment and anger towards you. Jealousy is ugly and no one ever finds it as an attractive quality, she will recognize it in herself (as will you), and the relationship will flounder.
Let me give you a personal example! I have been with a guy who became really jealous (which led to possessiveness/controlling) and I hated it. At first it comes off as flattering but then it came off as super insecure and needy. Attractive qualities, huh? I no longer wanted to be with that guy anymore since he was no longer attractive because he was so insecure and didn’t trust me. So one day (in a different relationship) I recognized that I was starting to become jealous. I instantly started to hate the person who I was becoming in that relationship and ended it. A relationship built on jealousy will never work as it really goes hand-in-hand with trust. We all know a relationship that doesn’t have trust will never work. The ‘Jealousy Plotline’ concept is based on this negative and value-sucking emotion, therefore it is fundamentally flawed.
So what’s the solution? SOCIAL DYNAMICS. Learn how to build an authentic connection with her and give value to that relationship freely and without expectation. By that I mean you create an interaction where value can be given in an environment that fosters that exchange. You can’t go wrong with giving value, ever. What you give out is what you receive and all that good karma will just boomerang back in your direction.
One of my favorite quotations from one of the Kingpin Social dudes is “Leave her better than when you met her.” And you don’t stop there- you leave everyone you interact with a better person. By giving value you allow to open yourself to a world of endless options that leads you to being capable of having a really awesome life. The doors begin to open, bridges are built and the things you want to achieve are obtainable- including THE GIRL of your dreams, among many other things.