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How To Shift From A (-) Mindset To A (+) Mindset

Universe“Complaining continues to create the vibration of what you don’t want. Today, take your focus off of what is wrong and focus on what is right and how you desire things to be. Put all your love, energy, mental power and decision making towards what you want and do not entertain thoughts that are to the contrary. You are MORE responsible for the way you feel than your environment, circumstances or relationships. Step towards Love today, step towards the solution.” – Jackson Kiddard

You know those mornings where you wake up and everything seems to be insanely frustrating? The mornings where you wake up 20 minutes late, you can’t find your keys, you burn your cinnamon raisin bagel, and forget to put the lid on the blender for your morning shake. Your morning is a mess from the very moment you pressed the snooze button multiple times. You then get behind the wheel to drive 45 minutes in traffic to get to work. These compiled emotions can stack like bricks into a wall of pending doom. All of a sudden it seems like you are a giant magnet for the worst drivers, you hit every red light, and yup- zero parking stalls are available. You really thought that was going to be possible? Dream-on.

What you think; You will become.

The basic fundamentals of the law of attraction are: what we put out is what we receive. We all vibrate at different kinds of frequencies, let’s stick to just positive and negative, and that energy is than radiating out from your very core out into the universe. I like to visualize it like radio waves. Whichever vibration you are putting out into the world is that which you attract. The more you vibrate at that frequency the more it attracts the same. You can see how this can be a problem, but this isn’t all bad news because it can also be an incredible way to attract success and happiness. Those who focus on negativity and vibrate at a negative frequency, tend to attract everything they don’t (yet do) want. Negative people tend to focus on the result they don’t want but in doing so results in them getting what they do want by attracting what they don’t want… in order to be right. You following? This is called manifestation. If you don’t want to stub your toe but yet are convinced that you will in-fact stub your toe no matter how badly you don’t want to- you will. It’s a simple equation. You end up stubbing your toe because you wanted to stub your toe to show that you were right about how much your life sucks. It’s a way for you to boost your ego, to allow excuses and breed negativity to allow you to settle. Bring on the self-loathing and bouts of pity-parties. I have been there many times, in fact, I was there for a few days this past week.

The law of attraction and manifestation isn’t something I’ve recently learned but definitely something that has been a challenge to remind myself not to allow negativity to breed into my life as it tends to result in an overload of stress, sadness, apathy, and worst of all- procrastination.

In the past few weeks I managed to burn myself out by pushing myself too hard with all of my obligations. With the drop in my iron levels combined with my incredible ability to spread myself thin until breaking point- I have been a walking vibration of stress and exhaustion. Being so financially focused that my view of “half full” has turned into “half empty.” It’s sad, but true. I would be driving my truck and glance at my gas gage, it could be 3/4 full and I nervously tap my fingers against the steering wheel thinking about how much time I have ’till it’s empty again. I send myself into a nervous break-down worrying about everything. This obsession with lacking resulted into stress, feeling anxious, and procrastinate like a crazy lady, thus creating even more stress! After that comes what I call, Sabotage Mode.

Law of attraction

Be careful what you wish for

After realizing that I was fixating on my gas gage and felt like I was somehow mentally draining my tank by focusing on it so much, I ended up realizing that focusing on the inevitable wouldn’t allow me to focus on being more solution orientated. The stress took away from me working harder on doing the things I needed to get done. I looked in all the places I could to have proof that I was lacking and therefore I found it- cause that’s what I was so focused on. This reminded me how I use to be when I was working in retail. I would say things like “This person doesn’t like me” and every day I would search for reasons to validate my assumptions. Any facial expressions, gestures, and conversations I would dissect for meaning to prove that what I was thinking was correct. But in doing so I wasn’t being fair to the person or allowing myself to create a better foundation in developing a relationship with them. Recently I have been doing this with team members in order to sabotage myself from growing and to keep myself comfortable. I was looking for any proof that I wasn’t welcome or that they genuinely didn’t want me there, in order to say “I don’t think I should do this anymore…” because of how terrified I was in getting what I really want. I would tell myself every excuse I could possibly think of and I would look for every reason and proof to validate my ego and prove myself right.

If you look for it, you will always find it.

Shifting from a (-) to a (+)

After having an in-depth conversation with Mikey B, I was able to allow myself to drop my walls and face my ego for what it really was. I knew I was looking for a way to back out and I knew that if I looked for reasons why I should, I would find it. Negativity is like a snow-ball effect, it all starts with one little ball of snow and it grows larger and larger as it picks up speed and rolls down the hill- later crashing and destroying everything in its path. For me it started with the feeling of lacking and the stress of my financial state, at that moment I was vibrating at a ‘lacking’ or negativity frequency, I then started to attract even more negativity into my life thus creating a giant snow ball that took out everything I had built for myself.  (Insert an emotional break-down here.)

How do you get out of the negative frequency? Its actually very simple- but not always easy. You need to wake up everyday with the intention that everything is going to be awesome and declare for yourself that you won’t tolerate the negativity virus that has been spreading in your life. Also you need to create a process that will help you demolish the things that are keeping you at a negative frequency. You can’t expect change without any action! 😉

Here is my process for Shifting from a Negative State to Positive State:

  1. Declare
  2. Affirmations
  3. Write it down
  4. Take Action
  5. Get Creative
1. Declare- This may seem really goofy, but it works. You declare out loud that you won’t tolerate any more negativity from yourself and from any external factors. Here’s an example: “Ok Universe, I understand I’ve been a giant ball of negativity but it ends here and now. I will no longer accept from myself or from any external factors this negative vibration as it isn’t serving me any purpose, in fact its destroying everything I have worked hard towards. So this is it, I’m going to put out as much love and positivity imaginable. I will only allow things that foster a positive mindset and outcome.” 

Get Creative!

2. Affirmations- This is another declaration but in short form and you can use it through-out the day. For instance this morning I used: “This is going to be an awesome day!”I kept repeating it until it really resonated with in me.3. Write it down– Write down everything that is stressing you out or isn’t serving you. I call it a “mind dump” – I literally write everything down that is stressing me out and need to tackle to feel clear headed. If your job is stressing you out, then write it down and say why so you understand the actions you may need to take later on to fix your situation, etc.

4. Take Action– You know that list you just wrote out? One by one attack each thing and cross it off when its completed. Its like a giant blackboard and that blackboard is your mind. Everything on your mind, or blackboard, is taking up too much space to allow positive vibrations to come in or new experiences and tasks. This results in that feeling of being stuck. By taking one step at a time you will slowly erase parts of the blackboard allowing you to feel less stressed and to allow room for more positivity to breed. All that crowded space isn’t serving you- it’s taking away from you. So get’er done!

“How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.” – Mikey B

5. Get Creative– Find a creative way that works for you to keep you accountable to your ‘Take Action List.’ I’m creative and need visual stimulation to help me get motivated so I created a board with my To DO list. It’s split in to categories, and every thing has a break-down of actions I need to complete. Once I complete a task, I get a sticker!  This isn’t for everyone so make sure you pick a way that works best for you. If you work better with excel sheets then do an excel sheet, and if you work better with reminders on  your phone then make sure you set reminders and alarms for each task. To work optimally is to understand what you need in order to be efficient and feel motivated.
J

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Find the Calm within the Storm

don't drink and driveYesterday I woke up to some bad news. One of my friends had fallen asleep while driving home last night and gotten into an accident. Thankfully he was ok, but there was some other bad news: he was over the legal limit for alcohol consumption. He received a DUI charge. He’s been battling alcohol problems for a while.

“I’m going to go to an AA meeting today at 5:30,” he says to me on the phone.

Going to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting is never an easy thing. It’s an uncomfortable situation, and you don’t know what to expect. It definitely doesn’t help that by going you are making a statement to yourself that you ARE in need of help, and can’t fix it yourself. It can be a tough pill to swallow.

A few years back I went to an AA meeting in support of another friend of mine. I wasn’t even going to the meeting for myself, yet I still felt uncomfortable. Thinking about this, I knew the best move for me to make was to go support my friend at his first AA meeting, instead of having him go alone. Plus that way I can assure he gets there and doesn’t miss it.

“Do you want me to come with you?”

He goes on to say I don’t have to but if I were willing he would appreciate it. So that’s what I did.

During the meeting there is a discussion period, where most of the people there will get a chance to talk about whatever they want to. You’ve seen it in the movies: “Hi I’m X and I’m an alcoholic…” One of the guys, I can’t remember his name, older fellow, started talking about how he’s tried to get better multiple times, used treatment centers, used AA, and every time he ends up falling back. His voice was irritated. You could hear the sense of frustration with each word he said. The frustration wasn’t to imply he was giving up though. No not at all. He still had that fierce determination, that “swag” that he was going to win this battle.

He said the key to him succeeding was to find calmness when things got out of wack – even if just a little bit. “Just take 5 minutes,” he constantly reminded himself. This applied no matter where he was; whenever he began to feel stressed out, he would just take 5 minutes to himself to meditate and calm his mind down. “When you do this, you are able to make the decision you actually want to make, instead of one based on emotions or fear.”

eye of the storm

This resonated with me a lot. Lately I’ve been stressed out to say the least. It’s honestly the most stressed out I’ve been in over 3 years. No joke. And to be honest, I’m not even “that” stressed out; and it could be worse, but I believe you should be optimizing at all times, so no amount of stress to me is “ok”. I prefer to live my life 100% drama-free.

In my opinion, all the stress I’ve had recently could be avoided if I dealt with things better. I need to be that much more organized and that much better at “finding the calm within the storm.” I can be better at taking 5 minutes to control my emotions before making any decisions. I can take full responsibility.

One of the coolest side effects of studying Social Dynamics is that you become emotionally stable. This allows you to make decisions properly, of which make your life that much better.

I know it’s something we have all heard a million times, and a million more times on top of that, but regardless, being reminded of the basics never hurts; and to be honest, since attending that AA meeting I have made a much more conscious decision to take 5 minutes to re-center, and this has impacted my life in very positive ways lately.

zen

So next time you are feeling a bit overwhelmed, stressed out, angry, or jealous, take 5 minutes wherever you are, head into a bathroom stall, pull over on the side of the road – whatever you have to do – and find the calm within the storm. Or as my Mother would say: “Take a breath and count to ten.”

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The State of Your Room is the State of Your Mind

Do you ever look back on the past year and realize how much progress you have made? Do you ever try to determine the top lessons you learned throughout the year that made the biggest impact?

Looking back to 2010, there were two major lessons I learned that influenced many others throughout the year:

1. Getting organized with Google Calendar (post on this coming soon)
2. Making my bed every day.

Today I want to talk about #2: Making my bed every day.

Wait what? How would making your bed every day have such a strong influence on your quality of life?

Let me share my story:

Growing up my Mother would always ask me to clean my room. I hated this. I enjoyed my messy room and had no desire to do otherwise. I wasn’t incredibly unorganized, but there is no doubt it was an area I could improve. This lasted for the first 22 years of my life. One day early in 2010 I decided to start making my bed every day, no matter what. Part of this decision came from a desire to take myself more seriously. I was a successful guy who viewed himself as high value. How could I view myself as high value if I couldn’t even make my bed every morning? (Another example: how can you view yourself as high value if you can’t even brush your teeth twice a day, or wash your hands after going to the bathroom?)

I finally became inspired to make my bed every morning after hearing the phrase:

The State Of Your Room is the State of Your Mind

messy room

This is simple. When your room looks like a bomb went off, it’s an obvious indicator about the status of your life. This could mean you are stressed out. It could mean you are simply unorganized. It could mean you are very unorganized. It could mean you have a lower self-esteem. It could simply mean you are more carefree. Not all of these are bad, but I wouldn’t classify any of them as optimal, and I believe you should be optimizing at all times.

A super easy way to clear your life of stress and anxiety is to be that much more organized. Being organized starts with your bedroom. Your bedroom is the place you start and end your day. If you’re room is a disaster it’s just one more thing you know is on your plate. It’s no different then having dishes in your sink. You will constantly be losing mental energy every time you run into these areas, and with a few simple tweaks to your daily routine, you can eliminate any potential for that, giving you a clearer head and more energy to use on your passions.

An easy solution to many problems come in the form of systems. This won’t always apply, but when it comes to organization it definitely does. I made the decision to start making my bed every day out of a desire to take myself more seriously. I knew making my bed every day would never happen without a solid system in place, so this is where I started:

My Routine

The first thing I do every morning is shower. If I don’t do this I feel weird, and it’s been this way for over 10 years now. After showering I make my bed. This takes 20 seconds and follows the 2-minute rule. After making my bed I get dressed, and start my day.

I found making my bed after I got dressed didn’t work very well because as soon as my pants are on I’m thinking about what I need to eat for breakfast and all the various other tasks I need to do that day. Making your bed immediately after you get up is a must.

Although I had aspirations to have a clean room at all times, I kept it simple and focused on starting with my bed only.

The Secret To A Clean Room

What’s really interesting about making my bed every day was that it actually encouraged me to clean up the rest of my room too. When your bed is made, you feel good; not only that, but it also exposes the areas in your room that are messy. However when your bed isn’t made, the mess in your room all blends together. Because your bed is such a major part of your room, it has a big impact on this. Your bed can either help expose your trouble areas or help camouflage your mess. The difference is in your bed.

messy room

What you will find is that the reason your room gets messy is because of a few select areas. I call these “trouble areas or trouble spots.” One of my trouble areas is at the foot of my bed. This happens because this is where I get undressed (helloooooo laddiiiiies 😉 ) every night, so every morning I wake up with clothes on my floor. Since recognizing this, I do my best to put the clothes I’m taking off into either the laundry basket or hung up in my closet. Now I wake up with one less thing to do, and it doesn’t encourage me to leave other messes around my room.

As making your bed becomes habit, focus on one of your trouble areas. Soon enough your room will be clean the majority of the time, and when it isn’t, a quick 5-minute clean will do the trick.

Simply put:

Making my bed every day encouraged me to take the time and maintain a clean room. It was the catalyst in encouraging me to get more and more organized. It’s unarguable that being organized is an absolute direct influence in your quality of life. Being organized will make you more money. It will allow you to maintain more relationships, giving you more opportunities, more options. It will alleviate a ridiculous amount of stress and anxiety, allowing you to grow and be emotionally stable. Start with making your bed every morning, and as this becomes a habit, move onto a new trouble area, and so on. This will have a direct impact on how you perceive your self-worth. It will seriously** increase your self-esteem.

Are you up for the challenge?

The challenge is to make your bed every morning. Who’s up for it? Comment below and I will help keep you accountable. If your room is not clean right now, you have no reason* not to join the challenge. This will make a difference in your life. Let’s do it!

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How to Eliminate Stress and Increase Productivity (In 2 Minutes or Less!)

Today I want to introduce you guys to a stupid simple rule that will make a massive difference in your life.

At least it has for mine.

The 2-Minute Rule:

Pretty self-explanatory right?

The reason this works is simple: it eliminates many of the small tasks that take 20 seconds to do… but because of that so many people avoid doing them, and they end up piling up.

When these small things pile up, you quickly become discouraged (“Ugh! I have soooo much to do”) and this kick starts that evil procrastination cycle.

I’m sure you understand what I’m talking about. This is so fucking common.

When I implemented this rule, I began to see immediate dividends. If I was being lazy, it would push me to just get these small tasks out of the way, so I could focus on the main tasks of the day. It almost became an accountability system of sorts. Because I value myself and have a certain standard I expect that reflects that, being lazy on these smallers tasks became unacceptable.

One of the best examples I can give you is with your dishes…

If you cook at home, you always end up with a bunch of dishes. After dinner you’ll have pots and pans to wash, bowls, a fork and spoon, and at least one glass. This isn’t very much, but who washes them right away? Nobody.

So you finish cooking, and sit down to eat. After eating you might take 2 minutes to put the dishes in the sink, you might not. You might take 2 minutes to rinse them off, you might not. I don’t know you. But the most likely scenario is at the end of dinner, you have dishes in your sink.

And then you go do something else. Maybe you’re in a rush. Maybe you are just tired after a long day of work. After sitting on the couch for awhile, you realize you’re too lazy/tired/whatever to actually get up and do your dishes.

The next day you wake up and head to work. You throw your breakfast dishes in the sink before heading out the door. You don’t have time to do the dishes in the morning because you most likely hit your snooze button a bunch of times and are now running late. Again… this is common stuff here. After working all day you come home tired (as always) and make dinner. The cycle continues.

But this is what you probably don’t realize…

Every time you walk by your sink and it’s filled with dishes, you lose a ton of mental energy.

A loss of mental energy turns into a loss of physical energy. AND you still have to set aside time to do your dishes. That sucks! I know dishes are never a priority for me, so setting aside time to do it once it has piled up is most likely not going to happen.

And as the pile builds, your attitude plummets. You start to become more negative. And that leads into other areas too. You probably bitch about not having time to do everything you need to do. Your job sucks, etc.

Think this is extreme? It’s not. This happens every fucking day.

So what if you instituted the 2-minute rule? How would the outcome be different?

The 2-minute rule would dictate that during or after dinner, you would at least rinse your dishes, and probably put them in the dishwasher if you have one. If you don’t, then you’d cook, rinse, eat, and then wash. It’s that simple. If you only have 5 dishes in your sink, it will take less than 2-minutes to have them on a drying rack waiting to be put away.

The next time you’re in the kitchen, you would take the 30 seconds it would take to put the dishes away in your cabinets.

Andddddd now that task is DONE.

You save all the mental energy you would have wasted procrastinating about it.

Andddddddd this momentum will snowball into other areas. Like it has for me.

Anytime I would go on a road trip, go camping, or travel across the USA for 5 weeks I always came home with a bag full of dirty clothes. Not only that, but I would be completely exhausted and had no desire to do anything at all, other than lay in my bed and watch movies. Nothing wrong with that right?

But then what I found was that laundry would sit there for a few days, and eventually become a burden. I would begin to procrastinate on it, and lose all that mental energy.

So lately whenever I come home from one of these trips, the first thing I do is put all of that dirty laundry into the washing machine. The laundry is usually one load, maybe two max, so it really doesn’t take me long. Clothes go in, machine turns on, and I can go lay in my bed all I want.

The next day when I wake up, my laundry is done, and I’m starting my week off right. I wake up with one or two fewer tasks on my plate, instead of having this and that still to do before I can even start on my week; by this point, I’m already behind. This has allowed me to be that much more productive, and allows my mind to be at ease.

Institute the 2-minute rule TODAY: if it can be done in 2-minutes or less, do it now.

Speaking of which, I better go clean the kitchen before Brian gets home, otherwise it will throw his day off too.

Hope this helps!

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