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How to Achieve Freedom (And Why Your Idea of Freedom is Wrong!)

freedomThe idea of freedom is an important one. It’s something everyone wants, strives for, craves, and ultimately needs in order to fulfill their passions and dreams! While freedom is an extremely important idea, I have recently realized that the idea of freedom is only ONE side of the coin. And without it’s counterpart, the value of freedom diminishes substantially. So what is freedom’s counterpart, and how can combine the two to live a more fulfilling life? This is precisely what I will be talking about today.

Freedom’s counterpart is purpose, passion and direction. The idea or pursuit of freedom alone, without purpose, is incomplete. It will ultimately limit the potential depth and overall value that any relationship has to offer. However freedom with purpose is surely necessary to feeling fulfilled and live the life you want.
 
Obviously freedom is something we all want, and it comes in many forms: financial freedom, freedom from oppression, freedom of speech, freedom from illness, freedom of relationships, freedom of thought, freedom of education to name a few. However the “side of the coin” that most people miss is the idea of purpose, passion and direction. To have one without the other does not actually create value. In fact it can be dangerous in some cases to have only one. How can you have freedom without a purpose or direction to apply it to? How can you have a purpose or direction if you are not free to pursue it?
 

Here’s an Example:

Travelling is a great example because it’s what many people would choose to do if they had “freedom”. However when you are travelling there is actually only one point throughout the journey of your travels where you are truly free. This is the point at which you decide where you ultimately want to go, which destination you wish to travel to. This is when you are completely free to travel anywhere you would wish. The moment you select a destination and buy your ticket you are now bound to that choice, that decision and that destination. 
 
Infact if you look at areas of life where only freedom exists, it’s actually not anywhere we would want to be:

  • At which point in your job are you actually free? At the point at which you have yet to select a job. When you are unemployed.
  • At which point in your speech are you actually free? At the point at which you have yet to select a topic of conversation. When you are in silence.
  • At which place in your travels are you actually free? When you have yet to select a destination. When you are in limbo.

 
What many people are not aware of is the fact that they are free or can be. Everyone has the choice. The problem occurs when people forget to attach a purpose or direction to their freedom.

If I had an hour to save the world I would spend 59 minutes defining the problem and one minute finding solutions.
-Albert Einsten

 
The real problem is that people don’t have purpose. They are trying to find solutions to problems that don’t exist.

So how do you create purpose, passion and direction while achieving freedom? How do you utilize them both? The place where you start, like with most things, is through developing awareness. How can you walk the path if you do not have the map? Well first you have to realize that purpose, passion and direction is the map!
 

First: How to Achieve Freedom.

Freedom is simply independence within a relationship. Remember that you can build a relationship with ANYTHING. To be independent is to simply be without dependence.
 
Define your dependencies:
 
Are you dependent on money to create options? On another person for support? On your boss for approval to move a project forward? Are you dependent on anything for your motivation?
 
If so then this is where you start. Taking ourselves to an independent level in the relationships/areas of life that we wish to pursue. It is only when you have reached independence in the relationships you value most that you are truly free.
 
Once you have freedom, you have reached the pinnacle of independence, what’s next? The Map.
 

Second: How to Achieve Purpose, Passion and Direction?

 
spacePurpose/passion/direction are all the by-product of a deep, connected, internal relationship. Before something can be your purpose it must be your passion, before it can be your passion you must love it, before you love it you must like it, and before you like it you must experience it. These progressions towards purpose are the same progressions seen in the development of a relationship.
 
Passion is the intensity of the emotion you feel directly paralleled to the rate of growth you experience in a relationship. When you are growing very quickly you are very passionate, however passion is virtually non-existent when you have plateaued.
 
Purpose is when the potential of the relationship has no end. As an example, a purpose cannot be about one’s self because eventually even that relationship will end. However relationships with positivity, growth, spirituality, energy, the universe or good karma are all examples of relationships that could potentially last forever, and thus, have the potential to be your purpose. These are only a few examples of many, many types of relationships that have infinite potential without an end.
 
Direction is simply the pursuit of both purpose and passion.
 
The way you achieve purpose, passion, and direction is by developing a relationship to as deep of a level as possible. Naturally the relationships will be what each individual finds most valuable. So how does someone develop relationships to such a deep level when nobody is ever taught? This is our mission with the Social Dynamics Movement. To finally open you up to the option of learning how to develop healthy, long-term relationships. To finally have the option of social education. To finally be able to find purpose, passion and direction. To finally achieve freedom.

If you want to find out more, contact me. I’d love to talk with each of you on these subjects more.

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The Difference Between “Dreamers” and “Do’ers” & How to Find Your Purpose

Horizon“Alright, I have a question for you,” I posed to David O’Neil. I always love taking to this guy. His brain thinks on an entirely new level – it’s incredible. Every chance I get to pick his brain and have a progressive conversation, I take it.

“Do you think a man’s purpose is pre-determined, or do you think he chooses his own purpose?” I stated. In 18 days I leave for Nanaimo BC to try out for a Football team. I’ve loved the game of Football since I started playing at 14 years old. Football seems to be one of the areas of my life that I put an obsessive amount of time in developing without questioning any of the work I’m doing.

“Neither,” David stated. “I believe a man’s purpose is derived from the thoughts he holds inside of his mind that compel him to move. I don’t think a man’s purpose is pre-determined, and I also don’t think that he chooses his own purpose. I think there are certain thoughts inside of a man’s mind that MOVE him,” David finished, reaching his hand over his heart and grasping at the air in front of his shirt, as if to rip his passion from his chest.

Make Your Move

The past few days I’ve been thinking about why some people pursue their dreams and live a life they’ve always wanted, and why some are stuck in some rut and never able to fight their way out. Why some people live extraordinary lives, and some live less then their full potential, when we’re all cut from the same cloth.

Everything starts with an idea. The computer you read this post off of, the keyboard I type this post onto, even the coffee shop that I’m sitting in in this moment was first an idea inside of someone’s mind until they made it a reality. There are some ideas that make it into the physical world for us and others to see, and there are some ideas that never make it (being successful, making a million dollars, having your dream job).

I thought to myself; “if EVERYTHING starts with an idea, why doesn’t every idea turn into reality?”

The Window of Opportunity Has A Time Limit

Gregorio and I walked into the locker room and began changing after an intense workout last Friday. I LOVE being at the gym and pushing myself, especially when I have someone I care about with me. I always push myself to higher levels in the company of my good friends – we inspire each other through action. I changed out of my gym shorts and into my pants. My phone vibrated, notifying me of a new message.

It was a “250” number. “250” is from BC. There’s only one person this could be.

I called the Coach from the Vancouver Island Raiders back and was met with no answer. It was late at night, it’s likely that he wouldn’t be up at this time. I froze in nervousness when met with his voicemail. It all seemed so surreal – I can’t believe he called me back. I sent out an email asking for an opportunity to earn my way onto his team just a few days ago and was met with a hasty response.

Big Hit

I have 18 days left until I leave the city I’ve grown comfortable in.

I’ve lived in Calgary for most of my life. I have a network that I can rely on when times get tough, most of my family lives here and leaving this city means leaving everything I’ve ever grown up around and learned to love.

Moving to Nanaimo means I need a job in Calgary for the next little while to get extra cash, I need to book more clients for Kingpin Social, I need to get a job out in Nanaimo, I need to get a place out in Nanaimo, I’ll need to build my network out in Nanaimo, I’ll need to try out for the team in Nanaimo. There are so many logistics that came with making my decision, which lead me to realize why people don’t pursue their dreams.

Because Pursuing Your Dreams Means Taking Massive Action.

David and I talked about the “x” factor that turns dreams into reality. Together we came to the conclusion that the “thing” that turns ideas into reality is decisions.

Decisions are the determining factor between YOUR IDEAS and YOUR REALITY.

I’ve always wanted to play Football at the next level. The idea had circulated through my brain for YEARS, and it pained me to think that I would never play again after separating my shoulder. I got in touch with my dream due to the study of Relationships through Kingpin Social.

All relationships are based off an exchange of value. At every moment I am spending my time and energy, and receiving value back. I am either receiving value that makes me feel a positive emotion, or am I receiving value that makes me feel a negative emotion. I started to ask myself “What have I done with my time and energy before that has made me feel the best emotion?

Relationship w/ Self

Example: I used to work at a construction company making $12.50 an hour. I worked there for 9 hours a day and I absolutely hated it.

At ALL moments in time you are spending your time and energy. Every second that ticks away on the clock is a second that you will never get back. I worked at a construction job making $12.50 an hour and I felt a negative emotion about the time and energy that I spent there. There are still 16 other hours in a day, but when I have 1/3 of my day that I can’t STAND, it’s likely that the relationship with myself is going to be overall negative.

Think about your life for a second. What have you done with your life that makes you feel the best emotion? At every moment you are spending your time and energy. When you are receiving a positive emotion back from the time and energy you spend, you KNOW you’re on the right path

On the flipside, when you spend your time and energy and you feel a POSITIVE emotion, you have a positive relationship with yourself. When I play Football, and I get the opportunity to run at someone bigger than me, play against someone faster than me, on a field full of players who are equally as talented I feel heightened levels of positive emotion. Football is the outlet for my energy that makes me feel the BEST emotion. When I spend my time and energy and I feel a positive emotion, I have a positive relationship with myself.

David and I talked about a man’s purpose, and came to the conclusion that a man’s purpose is determined by the thoughts that compel him to move. I also believe that the relationship with yourself prospers when you feel heightened levels of positive emotion, which I believe is achieved by spending your time and energy doing things that you love to do. I think that the “x” factor that turns ideas into reality is DECISIONS. I believe that most people never make the decision to chase their dreams because of the amount of massive action that must immediately follow the decision to live a life of your dreams.

Your Time is Ticking Away

Who are you? Are you the dreamer? Are you the person that takes action, but you feel a negative emotion when you spend your time and energy? Or are you the person living your dreams, understanding what makes you feel the best possible emotion and pursuing it to endless degrees?

I leave for BC in 18 days. I’m moving to a city where I know absolutely  no one for an opportunity to try out for a team I may not even make… but that’s the beauty of it. Success, failure, it doesn’t matter. All that matters is that I look back on this moment, on this decision, and I tell myself “I’m glad I took the chance.”

It’s your turn. What are some of your ambitions? What have you always thought about doing, but left the idea on the backburner?

Skydiving

Every second that ticks away is a second that you will never get back. Are you spending your time and energy doing something you love, or are you spending your time and energy doing something that makes you feel a negative emotion?

It’s your life. Make a decision.