Mission 1: Pack Your Bags

planeQuestion: If you were in a state of continuous travel, what would you bring?

This question of what I would bring on a never-ending journey popped into my head recently as both of my roommates will no longer living in our condo as they both want to pursue travels and other experiences.

When you’re faced with moving, relocating, or even travelling, many of us feel a certain anxiety around our stuff. The stress of hauling it all over the place, finding out where everything goes, damaging it or wondering what to bring on a trip… if we’ve brought enough, or what if we’ve forgotten anything!? All these things can become overwhelming.

If you are one of those people with a particularly large amount of “stuff” this feeling can be intensified. In fact there are television shows that are based around the people that take this concept the furthest. They are called hoarders. There are many other names for hoarders too, such as: Collectors, Fanatics, Enthusiasts, Fanboys, etc. In many ways hoarding makes sense. You are creating a stockpile of something that you feel is valuable.

However a question we rarely ask ourselves is how and why is this valuable and to what degree?

People can also hoard or stockpile skills, hobbies, or memories. In fact human beings in general have this tendency to hang onto things. I am personally guilty of starting too many things without finishing them, or learning too many things without getting good at them – “jack of all trades, master of nothing.”

The interesting thing about this idea of hoarding is that it is not as valuable as people think, and it can actually be a very limiting and destructive force because there is really no end to it.

Someone could spend his or her whole life collecting “stuff”. Finding that right balance, especially in a consumer driven society, can be very difficult. The more we hang onto, the less free we are to move around. We develop attachments to our stuff, which makes it hard to get rid of or move on even when it makes sense to.

The stuff that we own ends up owning us.

This way of thinking also spreads us thin. All of the things we own and acquire all require our time and energy to function. Each skill, hobby, car, house, or pair of shoes will ultimately require some type of maintenance or else it will slowly degrade or be forgotten.

Even having so many things to do can ultimately end up in procrastination – having a full plate is the bane of a procrastinator.

So here’s a mission for you. Try it out and see what results you get. (Are you IN? If you are, comment below and say I’M IN to commit to the challenge.)

Mission: Pack Your Bags

To achieve the feeling and awareness of knowing exactly what you need and what to focus on.

Imagine you’re about to travel forever. This means that everything you own you have to bring with you. This means that you still want to have a job, you want to have hobbies, passions and interests BUT you have to find a way make them mobile. What are the key things that make the most important areas of your life work? What is the purpose and function of each and everything “thing” in your life?

  1. Start packing.
  2. Start from zero.
  3. Select a bag, piece of luggage, etc.
  4. Start to fill it with the things that you absolutely NEED and cannot live without (Remember, what do you need to bring to work, or for your hobbies and interests?)
  5. The things that aren’t serving your ultimate purpose, organize into 2 piles: Donate or Trash.

Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away. – Antoine de Saint-Exupe

The interesting thing that I experienced when I did this for myself was a strange feeling of being free. I was free from something that I didn’t even know limited me. Being able to physically see all the things that I actually need, and realizing that everything else I have are things I have acquired but don’t truly have any purpose or function, I got the feeling that I could go anywhere and I could already feel my focus increasing. I could feel more options open as I had more resources open up to me as well. Time, energy and even money was a mentality that shifted for me.

Regardless of if you’re going on a trip, this mission is a great way to see the things that are the most important to you. It also forces you to be creative in the items you are going to pack to still maintain all of the things you actually want.

If you want to hear what’s packed in my bags let me know! I’d love to hear what you’re going to bring on this never-ending journey called life in the comments below!

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How to Achieve Freedom (And Why Your Idea of Freedom is Wrong!)

freedomThe idea of freedom is an important one. It’s something everyone wants, strives for, craves, and ultimately needs in order to fulfill their passions and dreams! While freedom is an extremely important idea, I have recently realized that the idea of freedom is only ONE side of the coin. And without it’s counterpart, the value of freedom diminishes substantially. So what is freedom’s counterpart, and how can combine the two to live a more fulfilling life? This is precisely what I will be talking about today.

Freedom’s counterpart is purpose, passion and direction. The idea or pursuit of freedom alone, without purpose, is incomplete. It will ultimately limit the potential depth and overall value that any relationship has to offer. However freedom with purpose is surely necessary to feeling fulfilled and live the life you want.
Obviously freedom is something we all want, and it comes in many forms: financial freedom, freedom from oppression, freedom of speech, freedom from illness, freedom of relationships, freedom of thought, freedom of education to name a few. However the “side of the coin” that most people miss is the idea of purpose, passion and direction. To have one without the other does not actually create value. In fact it can be dangerous in some cases to have only one. How can you have freedom without a purpose or direction to apply it to? How can you have a purpose or direction if you are not free to pursue it?

Here’s an Example:

Travelling is a great example because it’s what many people would choose to do if they had “freedom”. However when you are travelling there is actually only one point throughout the journey of your travels where you are truly free. This is the point at which you decide where you ultimately want to go, which destination you wish to travel to. This is when you are completely free to travel anywhere you would wish. The moment you select a destination and buy your ticket you are now bound to that choice, that decision and that destination. 
Infact if you look at areas of life where only freedom exists, it’s actually not anywhere we would want to be:

  • At which point in your job are you actually free? At the point at which you have yet to select a job. When you are unemployed.
  • At which point in your speech are you actually free? At the point at which you have yet to select a topic of conversation. When you are in silence.
  • At which place in your travels are you actually free? When you have yet to select a destination. When you are in limbo.

What many people are not aware of is the fact that they are free or can be. Everyone has the choice. The problem occurs when people forget to attach a purpose or direction to their freedom.

If I had an hour to save the world I would spend 59 minutes defining the problem and one minute finding solutions.
-Albert Einsten

The real problem is that people don’t have purpose. They are trying to find solutions to problems that don’t exist.

So how do you create purpose, passion and direction while achieving freedom? How do you utilize them both? The place where you start, like with most things, is through developing awareness. How can you walk the path if you do not have the map? Well first you have to realize that purpose, passion and direction is the map!

First: How to Achieve Freedom.

Freedom is simply independence within a relationship. Remember that you can build a relationship with ANYTHING. To be independent is to simply be without dependence.
Define your dependencies:
Are you dependent on money to create options? On another person for support? On your boss for approval to move a project forward? Are you dependent on anything for your motivation?
If so then this is where you start. Taking ourselves to an independent level in the relationships/areas of life that we wish to pursue. It is only when you have reached independence in the relationships you value most that you are truly free.
Once you have freedom, you have reached the pinnacle of independence, what’s next? The Map.

Second: How to Achieve Purpose, Passion and Direction?

spacePurpose/passion/direction are all the by-product of a deep, connected, internal relationship. Before something can be your purpose it must be your passion, before it can be your passion you must love it, before you love it you must like it, and before you like it you must experience it. These progressions towards purpose are the same progressions seen in the development of a relationship.
Passion is the intensity of the emotion you feel directly paralleled to the rate of growth you experience in a relationship. When you are growing very quickly you are very passionate, however passion is virtually non-existent when you have plateaued.
Purpose is when the potential of the relationship has no end. As an example, a purpose cannot be about one’s self because eventually even that relationship will end. However relationships with positivity, growth, spirituality, energy, the universe or good karma are all examples of relationships that could potentially last forever, and thus, have the potential to be your purpose. These are only a few examples of many, many types of relationships that have infinite potential without an end.
Direction is simply the pursuit of both purpose and passion.
The way you achieve purpose, passion, and direction is by developing a relationship to as deep of a level as possible. Naturally the relationships will be what each individual finds most valuable. So how does someone develop relationships to such a deep level when nobody is ever taught? This is our mission with the Social Dynamics Movement. To finally open you up to the option of learning how to develop healthy, long-term relationships. To finally have the option of social education. To finally be able to find purpose, passion and direction. To finally achieve freedom.

If you want to find out more, contact me. I’d love to talk with each of you on these subjects more.