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Top 10 Quotes by Steve Jobs

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“Being the richest man in the cemetery doesn’t matter to me … Going to bed at night saying we’ve done something wonderful… that’s what matters to me.”

“My job is not to be easy on people. My jobs is to take these great people we have and to push them and make them even better.”

“Why join the navy if you can be a pirate?”

“We don’t get a chance to do that many things, and every one should be really excellent. Because this is our life. Life is brief, and then you die, you know? And we’ve all chosen to do this with our lives. So it better be damn good. It better be worth it.”

“Almost everything–all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure–these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”

“Here’s to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes… the ones who see things differently — they’re not fond of rules… You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can’t do is ignore them because they change things… they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.”

“I’m convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance.”

“Do you want to spend the rest of your life selling sugared water or do you want a chance to change the world?”

“I’m the only person I know that’s lost a quarter of a billion dollars in one year…. It’s very character-building.”

“Stay hungry, stay foolish.”

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Self Integrity = Happiness

I know at times it’s tough, waking up when your alarm first goes off. Scheduling time in your calendar, to make sure everything gets done that needs to get done. Making a list of priorities, so you know the most effective way to spend your free time. Slacking off and watching TV seems like the only option, it’s definitely the easiest one. Holding yourself accountable to the things you know need to get done is never easy.

I can tell you this, friend. It is worth every second of it.

I think the meaning of life is to be happy. We all want meaning, we all desire purpose with our life. What is life without a purpose? Meaningless, essentially. Living to exist, to pay the bills and line someone elses pocket with money. To exist to live means that you’re doing the things that you want to do with your life.

What About Existing to Live?

However with the system that we’ve been given, the 9 – 5 work schedule passed onto us by our past generations, the idea that we’ve got to go to school, get a good job and support our family hammered into us by our mentors… it’s very hard to do what you love with life. In fact, it’s a step by step process to turning your life around.

The problem with most people is that they expect an instant turn around. As if once they’ve been enlightened that there’s more opportunities waiting for them in the world, that tomorrow, their life will be completely different. One cannot wake up today and decide to be a guitar player, and be singing a song on guitar tomorrow. This life is a process, and either way you’re going to be on the process. It would make sense to dedicate yourself to getting better at guitar every single day, if this is your vision.

Ahh, this is the tough part. Back to the self – accountability. Knowing that you cannot simply close your eyes and dream of guitar skills means that you have to learn it yourself. You cannot learn it over night though. All you can do is close your eyes, wake up tomorrow morning and pick up the guitar for the first time. Maybe you learn a note, maybe you just learn how to properly hold the guitar. You become a bit better than you were yesterday, and move forward in the right direction to becoming a better player.

People lose sight of their vision at the first sign of success though. They’ll learn a few chords and be happy with their skill level, refusing to take it to a level where they’re getting massive amounts of value from the skill set. It’s not that they don’t want to learn, it’s that they don’t know the best way to keep themselves accountable to their word. It’s all about telling people about their vision, instead of working on the process of obtaining it.

“Better than Yesterday..”

What is the best way to keep yourself accountable to your word?

I have a step by step process. It is this. For any skill set that I learn, I have an unlimited vision. The reason the vision is unlimited, is because in my lifetime I must figure out a way that I will never stop advancing towards my unlimited vision. If I want to be a guitar player, my unlimited vision would be to be the best guitar player that I could possibly be.

Then I must set a long term goal. Although unlimited vision is important, as human beings if we are to dedicate ourselves to a process, we need a measurable tangent to fall upon. The long term goal is our long – term measurable tangent. Dedicating yourself to a process can be tough, if you don’t know how much you’re leveling up. My long – term goals are usually 4 – 6 weeks long, but you can lengthen or shorten yours based on your goal – setting skill levels. If you don’t know much about goal setting, send us an email. Goals are the key to success.

The long – term goal is your level up. If I wanted to learn the skill of guitar, I would set a long term goal to play and sing my favorite song.

The long term goal is long term, so how will we feel that monumental feeling of reaching a goal? One must set a short term goal to feel the monumental validation of achieved process. I set my short term goals for the week, and I make sure that I have a daily process for each goal. If I wanted to learn guitar, this week’s goal would be to learn a note on each one of the strings. (I don’t actually know guitar, bear with me.) Then I would have a daily process for the goal. Monday’s daily process would be to learn a note on String 1.

In order to work on the daily process of anything, one must understand the importance of the present moment. If one isn’t living in the present moment, one is missing out on the opportunities to advance inside of it. The present moment is detrimental to success.

Monday’s daily process is in a Microsoft Word document, or written on Monday’s “To Do” list. Once I finish Monday’s daily process, I cross it out on the “To Do” list, and write about the accomplishment of my goal, to relish in my process.

Present Moment >>Daily Process >> Short Term Goals >> Long Term Goals >> Unlimited Vision

Achieving your goals isn’t always easy, but the struggle is always worth the pay off. Long term validation, internal happiness comes from building self – integrity, and sticking to the most important oath: the one you make to yourself. Dedicate yourself to getting better, then follow the process of goal setting.

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What to Do When Life Throws You Lemons

make your life worth livingMy teaching “career” began in 2008 while working as an intern for another local Calgary “pick-up” company called Charisma Concept. At the time my only responsibility was to give a talk on the third day of the program, about what you should expect to happen as you study pick-up and dive deeper into Social Dynamics.

Back then, the talk revolved around what to expect  between you and your current friends. Time and time again I saw students getting involved in self-development and quickly they would no longer be friends with people they used to be friends with. This always raised concern within them, and they would call me inquiring why it was happening and whether or not it was a positive direction in their life.

Of course it was.

The reason this happened is simple: you are a product of your environment. Your environment is likely to consist of like-minded people, people going in the same direction as you. As you begin to study Social Dynamics and develop a mindset to learn, you begin to grow. Unless your friends are studying it with you, you’ll very likely be heading in a different direction than them, and thus, you will notice you aren’t spending as much time with the same people as you used to. This is OK. It just means you’re leveling up.

(Disclaimer for picky people: this doesn’t mean you are any better than anybody else, everybody is on the same “level”, it just means you are going in a different direction and the standard you have for someone to be “like-minded” evolves and changes as you grow.)

Similar to this is a problem I see students run into all the time. They begin studying Social Dynamics and are seeing great results in their life. Yet they are still frustrated, because they have to come through on the commitments they made prior to taking our program, such as working a 9-5 job they don’t particularly enjoy, or going to school. This is a frustrating situation to be in. The mission to live your ideal lifestyle is more fun than that 9-5 job, or finance class. It feels like every day you spend in those environments is a day you are wasting away. It feels incongruent.

so many things yet so little time

An Example

The other night one of my students sent me a text asking if he could give me a call. I gave him a time that would work for me and continued on with my day. 7pm rolls around and my phone rings. My student is calling on time. After a minute of small talk we both cut to the chase. He says he’s been having a bit of trouble lately and would like to hear my thoughts.

Student: “Cam… I’m just not interested in work anymore. I show up late all the time, my boss is on my ass; I’ve almost been fired. I have no motivation to be there anymore. I want to spend all my time growing. I feel like working this job is making me stagnant.”

The advice I give in this situation is always the same.

“Suck it up.”

What a great coach hey? Haha. The thing is though, is that whatever situation you’re in, you’re in! So you might as well make the best of it. There’s no sense in sitting around moping and bitching about your life not being in the place you want it. That is just a serious waste of valuable mental energy. The situation you’re in is the situation you’re in, so rock it!

If you’re still in your 9-5 job, then spend a bunch of time outside of your job working on changing your situation. You still have to show up to work Monday to Friday, you still have to collect your paycheck. There’s no sense in doing a shitty job, having a boss on your ass and burning a bridge you don’t need to burn. That’s poor Social Dynamics. Instead, you should go in there every day and work your ass off. Start developing a plan to get out of your situation, implement it with action, and voila, you’ll be your own boss in no time doing what you love. It can be that easy.

This ties in perfectly with my opinion on “does everything happen for a reason?”

On Saturday Myke and I had just finished running bootcamp, when he asked me that very question: “Cam, do you think everything happens for a reason?”

magic is everywhere if you know where to look

My answer is simple: who cares?

Let’s think about this for a second.

If events in your life do happen for a reason, then they are going to happen regardless. The most important part isn’t these events happening, but how you react to them.

So what if everything in life doesn’t happen for a reason? Then the same thing applies. Either way, events are going to happen in your life that you cannot prevent from going down. You can only control how you react to the events that happen. It really doesn’t matter whether they happen for a reason or not, it only matters what you do with the situations you’re presented with.

… in my opinion, there’s no better attitude to take into life and the events, situations and obstacles you run into along the way than one of “whatever happens, happens, so let’s make the best out of everything that does, and let’s not forget to actively pursue the life we desire, by growing each and every day.

man shrugging shoulders

I know since implementing that mindset into my life it has made a drastic difference. Give it a shot. Next time something happens in your life that isn’t ideal, just shrug your shoulders, put a smile on your face and make the best of it. Soon I bet you’ll realize that life that need to be taken that seriously, and with the right attitude, it can be a lot of fun too.

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One of the Keys to Happiness

Social Gym is always a struggle. I’m getting used to it though. It’s the same feeling I get before I go to the gym. Before I get there, I’m dreading being at the gym but once I’m actually there I catch myself becoming immersed in the beautiful moments with new acquaintances. I’m starting to not care what anyone thinks of me, going outside of my comfort zones to approach anyone. This is good, because now I can build from this foundation and figure out how to create long lasting, real conversations.

Coincidence, or Choices?

Mikey B stood in line for Starbucks, and it was a long line. Social Gym had been initiated, and here we stood in a massive line full of strangers. Both of us were in our head a bit, we didn’t start a conversation with anyone that was in line with us. The morning seemed to wear heavy on the both of us, lack of sleep crept into our voices when we spoke. Giddy and exhausted, Mikey B and I stood in the Starbucks line with a moderately higher energy.

7 customers later, I was standing at the front of the Starbucks line. I greeted the barista and ordered two frappachinos, one Caramel, one Salted Caramel Mocca. Mmm. The drinks seemed to be made in an instant, as I walked over to the end of the bar and have my eyes greeted by beautiful beverages. Mikey B and I picked them up, and started walking towards the front door of Starbucks. In my path stood two individuals with “Mustard Seed” lanyards hanging off their neck.

I’m a firm believe that every decision that you make in this moment effectively changes the course of the rest of your life. I walked by the lady towards the front door, then I doubled back and opened my mouth to speak.

Brian: Excuse me. I couldn’t help but notice your lanyards. Are you Volunteers?

Lady: Actually, I’m one of the managers at the Seed!

Brian: Hmm, interesting. I’ve always been curious about volunteering.

Lady: Yeah, I’m just on my break right now! I’d give you a tour, I’ll be back there in 20 minutes.

I figured it couldn’t be a bad decision. I talked to the lady and the man she was with for about 5 minutes, and parted ways to meet Mikey outside of Starbucks. I told him that we had a date in 20 minutes at the Mustard Seed for a tour, and I knew he’d be open to the idea. A new experience, and finding a new way to give value? Always the right move.

Rejection? PFFF!!

Mikey B and I walked around Downtown Calgary and started conversations with a few more people. I managed to make a woman think that I was about to rob her… lesson learned… don’t run up on people. Mikey B and I saw moderate success today, we’re both trying to calibrate to the energy of the environment while maintaining our genuine intent. Finding that balance in the daytime isn’t the easiest thing to do, but growing is worth the struggle.

30 minutes seemed like 5 as we made our way over to the Mustard Seed. I had all of these preconceived notions for how these homeless people would be, based on Society’s image of these people, but the lady that I met today inspired me to see the situation for what it actually was. It doesn’t matter whether you’re homeless, average or rich; you’re a person.

The lady that I met today was more of an inspiration than anyone I’ve ever met in my life. Mikey B and I walked into the Mustard seed to be greeted by the Manager, she shook Mikey B’s hand with certainty and love. The tour began, as she talked, talked and talked about the place that fueled her passionate fire. The lady talked about how these people inspired her, she talked about how she had raised six troubled children on top of her own four kids in the same house, how she had been helping the homeless for 30 years. I listened in awe, as my silence allowed her to passionately express the idea that she represented.

The tour lasted about an hour, and as it came to a close Mikey B finally piped up and asked the question that I was thinking about.

Mikey B: All you do is give, and give. How do you never burn yourself out?

Lady: I hear all the time about Social Workers burning themselves out. There’s no possible way I could burn myself out, because all I do is receive. People say that they “give and give,” and you cannot see it as that, because you only have so much to give. Everywhere I go, everything I do, I receive the honor of being a light to someone else. Give, receive, it’s all up here. It’s all based on perception.

A life–altering perspective on how Social Dynamics is meant to be played out. I find that now that Social Dynamics is out there, people are talking about how they “give and give” and receive nothing in return. In reality, when you are “giving” you are receiving the gift of giving. “Giving” should never be a chore, it should be an honor. If it is a chore, you are doing it for the wrong reasons, because a gift with a string attached is a bribe.

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In the end, we’re all people. It doesn’t matter whether you’re homeless, on the streets, have a drug issue, drive a lambo, own your house, have a million dollars. We are all people, and we all co–exist in this world together. To live selfishly is always the wrong move, because the necessities for survival are moderate in comparison to the extravagant materialistic items that the wealthy purchase to satisfy their ego. Give, and you shall receive. Give freely, expecting nothing in return and you receive the gift of happiness.

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The Guy Legendary With Girls.

“Yo man, this guy is legendary with girls!” my bestfriend complimented me, as I was being introduced.

It’s Friday night so we thought we’d get down and hit up our favorite watering hole.

“Oh shit, for real?” says the other guy.

“Hey man, nice to meet you!” I said as we shook hands.

The other guy has a big grin on his face and looks really impressed. He thinks I’m some sort of rock star pussy magnet and buys me a drink.

“Two double vodka sodas and whatever he wants.” he says to the bartender.

“Fuck my life..” I whispered under my breath as I sipped on my free drink.

The whole night, as we floundered around the bar, I barely approached and talked to any any girls. I just wanted to look cool and suave, kinda like James Bond. I dished out a lot of excuses. “Nah man, she’s too thick.” “She’s not really my type bro.” “Yo man, she’s too tall.” “She looks like a man, dude.” and other bullshit excuses. I didn’t want to get blown out because I had to play the role of “the guy legendary with girls”

Clearly, they’re smooth and don’t get rejected, like James Bond.

Mind you, my best friend’s compliment was paved with good intentions. It was meant to be harmless. He didn’t know that when he complimented my skill, or lack of it at that point, it actually stunned me. I didn’t want to take action. I didn’t want to look bad. At a moment’s notice, I had to become a legendary-pimp-guy that’s apparently good with girls. I wasn’t allowed to make mistakes. I felt the need to live up to the label and I had to protect my identity. My big ego got in the way of a good night.

I obviously go out to have fun and meet other people. I don’t know about you, but buying a girl a drink isn’t really my style. I don’t wanna pay for over priced bottle service. I don’t pretend to be a VIP. I don’t wear sunglasses in the club and I can’t afford a Louis Vuitton man purse to sling across my chest. I figured dabbing a piece of cloth with choloroform, or dropping a funky pill in their drink isn’t the most ethical thing to do. So my last resort is to go up and talk to them. Here and there I get lucky but I know I could do better. That night, I was there to learn, practice and get rejected.

Woah, woah, woah! Hold on bro!

Legendary-pimp-guys don’t need to practice remember? Fuck. So yes, once again, I ended up drinking myself over the water falls. You can’t swim upstream after you jumped to the point of no return. What a waste of my night, all because I didn’t want to look bad and get rejected.

Praising another person’s ability is like being bitten by a hairy, poisonous spider. The venom travels through your blood streams very quickly and next thing you know, you’re paralyzed. It puts the person receiving the compliment in “performance mode.” It forces them to play a role that they haven’t rehearsed yet. You have to be perfect. Now. Or else you’ll be judged.

So when Friday rolls around and you wanna get down with the fellas, here’s what I suggest. If one of your bros sacks up,approaches a super fly stunner and gets rejected, don’t make fun of him. Give him props and a high five. Heck, buy him a drink while you’re at it. He put himself out there for self improvement and that is a great reason to celebrate. Despite the pretentious environment the night club brings, he’s being real and he’s following through his intentions. He would rather take a chance and get rejected than look cool. How many people in the club are doing that? Since you’re complimenting their effort, they’re more likely to take more risk and push themselves further than usual.

Keep this in mind next time you give someone a compliment. Unless you’re already a legendary-pimp-guy, then you can ignore everything I said.

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What Cops Teach You About Body-Language and Tonality

 

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As night two of bootcamp is wrapping up in Kelowna, BC, Myke, one of my assistants, asks if he can take the student around for “one more lap.” I say ok and tell him I will meet him outside. I want to give him that space to do this alone, without me watching over his shoulder. Teaching is very different when you know it’s only on you, without a seasoned instructor standing two feet away ready to step in if needed. This kind of pressure is good for him.

Jamie (another assistant) and I head outside. We both love people watching so naturally this occurs. There are few places better for this than outside a nightclub at two in the morning. In all honesty, it’s one of the most hilarious, disturbing, and endearing situations to observe. Drunk people everywhere, couples fighting with tears flowing, “No! You can’t walk away from me!” Fights about to break out, Cops surprisingly stationary, with a hot dog vendor nowhere to be found.

There are two kinds of people I pay attention to in this particular scenario or environment: Drunk people and the Police force. Today, I want to focus on our favorite neighborhood superheroes; the Cops.

Whenever learning a new skill, I find using imagery and building parallels helps integrate key concepts quicker. Last year when I set out to take my body language to the next level, I thought: “What is the vibe that you want to give off?” Instantly the answer came to mind: “Guys need to come across like they take themselves seriously, with strong confident body language, and a congruent tonality to boot.”

I thought about every situation I’ve had that involved conversation with a cop, and how I would always take him seriously. It’s not as if he’s talking to me and I’m looking around, bored, not paying attention, not responding to every word he says. When a cop talks-I pay attention. I take him very seriously. I respond.

Sure, his status could play a part in it. But I also think a major part of that comes from the fact that he speaks with authority and his body language is strong. His shoulders, back. Chin up. Feet firmly planted on the ground, shoulders width apart. His eye contact, as Tyra Banks would say, “fierce.”

non verbal communication chartBody Language and Vocal Tonality count for 93% of all communication. “It’s not what you say it’s how you say it” right? If you want to improve your interactions with people instantly, than improving your body language and tonality will be the quickest way. I’ve always been curious if the police force teaches a class on body language and tonality to cops, or if they act that way because of the internal mindsets they keep. (Here’s more information on Non-Verbal Attraction.)

While standing outside Club Sapphire against a brick wall, two cops approached a young man idling nearby to ask for his identification. After they were done with him I thought it would be cool to ask the question above. “Hey guys, quick question, I like studying Body Language and Tonality and notice how Cops always have it dialed down, so I’m curious… when you guys go to the Academy, do you take classes on it?”

They responded saying they have some classes on basics but not much else. Which just proves the concept “the self is always coming through.” How you feel about yourself internally will be portrayed through your body language and tonality externally.

So if you want to improve your body language and your vocal tonality, act like a cop. But don’t forget this one thing: you still need to be open, and friendly looking. If your body language is closed off and you’re being too serious, people won’t interact with you. But if you come across like you take yourself seriously, and talk like it too, people will respond as if it’s true. Having people take you seriously will make a serious difference in your life. It really does open up a lot of doors.

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The End of the “Friend Zone”

You look down at your hands as they grasp the Starbucks cup in front of up. Across from you is interesting conversation, as you gaze at the girl you’ve been hanging out with for a month now. She’s pretty cool, you guys seem to have really good talks.

I think she gets it.

“I really care about you!” You say to her often, as she reciprocates with more of the same. Nice! You’re in bro, no “friend zone” for you. A month down the road, although no physical contact was present, you decide that you’re going to make your move.

“WOAH! I don’t want to ruin our friendship.”

The 4 Most Painful Words..

Getting stuck in the friend zone sucks. I’ve been there, as I’m sure we all have been. Sitting down at Café Medina the other day, I just finished writing up an article and I wanted to get a woman’s opinion on it. “How to Love Anyone” was the title, and I was, honestly, expecting her to be intrigued and impressed. Instead, she had some interesting insight to offer on the article.

Marcela Garcia and I talked about the “friend zone” a bit. In my article, I write that “the difference between friends and lovers is the amount of physical touch that exist within a relationship.” She completely disagreed. Banter back and forth for a bit, I finally asked:

Brian: What is it that gets guys landed in the friend zone, then?

Marcela: The guys that get landed in the friend zone are afraid of getting turned down.

Brian: So you must escalate, then?

Marcela: Yeah!

Brian: Then I win!!

Marcela: Noo, not true. You don’t need to escalate physically, it can also be stating your interest.

This means that to end up in the friend zone means that you’re not willing to make the first move. The idea that this girl may turn you down and ruin the connection, leads her to do more of the same when you make the first move. You always get back what you give out. The first move doesn’t always have to be through touch, physical contact. It is one element of escalation though, and Marcela opened my eyes to the other element of escalation.

Assertiveness is Attractive

The other element of escalation is simply stating your intentions. If the girl’s dope, and you’ve been hanging out with her for a couple weeks, months, whatever… tell her! Escalating physically is one element of assertiveness, but escalating verbally is equally as powerful. The idea behind “escalation” is that you, as the man, must take the lead and direct the relationship in the way that you would like it to go. Women are smart, they know where you want it to go. If you sit back and be passive with your intentions, but you see her as more than a friend, she’ll know.

“You know what, I think I like you.” Goes far. FOR THE GUYS WHO ARE READING THIS AND HAVE ALREADY LANDED THEMSELVES IN THE FRIEND ZONE, TAKE THIS INFO WITH A GRAIN OF SALT. This information is best used when making the transition from “Friend – Best Friend”.  If she’s already your best friend, shoot me an email here and we can talk about that.

Marcela Garcia and I also came to the conclusion that relationships that start physically, usually stay physical. “25% of women today sleep with men before, or within the first week of dating them.” Marcela told me. I’d take a guess and say that number’s a bit higher. That’s good, if the physical connection is what you’re looking for. However if you’re looking for a long – lasting, internal connection, and you’re sleeping with people within the first week of meeting them… that means that your actions aren’t in line with your intentions.

I Speak Truth!

Guys that land themselves in the friend zone are afraid of getting turned down, so they’ll pussyfoot around with their intentions. “I really care about you,” “I like spending time with you,”… TRANSLATION: “Can you please put me in the friend zone?” Most guys wait forever to state their intentions too, so by the time they make the move it has to be a BIG one because they haven’t escalated properly. (Telling a girl you love her, before you tell her you like her!?) Speak up! Be assertive and direct with your intentions when you state them. Sometimes this means putting yourself on the line, which is always good. If she says no, it just means that you’ve got some self – development to work on.

There’s two types of escalation to make sure that you escape the “friend zone” with the girl that you like! You can escalate physically, knowing that a physical connection usually stays a physical connection, or you can escalate verbally by stating your intentions. The worst she can do is say no, and if that’s the case… that’s all good! Shoot us an email if this is a re – occurring scene for you, and we can help you develop yourself into a high value man.

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Building Integrity… and Freeing Time!

***RING****

You answer your I-Phone to be greeted by the voice of your best friend. He sounds stoked, and after a quick hello he gets to the point of the phone call.

“Bro! There’s a sick DJ show coming to town on Friday!”

Friday! Sounds sick, you’re in. Hanging up the phone you feel weird though, you feel like there’s something going on Friday. Only a passing thought, you move on with your day looking forward to the DJ show. Marcus Schultz?! Fuck yeah.

Friday rolls around as the day seems to fly by. The drive home from work passes by in minutes. You make your way through the front door of your house, throw down your work bag and run to the shower. Singing Brittany Spears and dancing to “Toxic”, you stop brushing your teeth as you notice your phone buzz on the counter. You look down to see a text from your Mom.

Mom: Hey honey! I’m excited that you’re coming over for dinner tonight.

Mama’s gonna be a – REAL mad!

Life get’s busy, for real. Sometimes it can feel like you have no free time to do anything. Especially planning in advance, I know I never used to plan more than two days in advance. Agreeing to plans a week ahead is easy, sticking to those plans isn’t always as simple.

Think about the way you spend your time right now, and the people you spend your time with. We tend to get immersed in the moment, going with the flow wherever we go without thinking about the time being spent. That’s good, living in the moment is very important, however we also find ourselves limited in the people we have time to spend with, and also the time that we have to ourselves.

I found that applying the simple idea in this article for me was a lot easier in theory than in application. In fact, I hated the idea of mapping out my life. I figured, I wanted to live my life the way I wanted to live it, in the moment, as it came.

However, I found that once I organized my calendar, I was able to do everything that I wanted to do with my time… and more. Being immersed in the moment is good, but sometimes I find that I get carried away, and slack off in the moment. I’m never slacking off if I know how much time I have to get a project done.

The best part about a calendar is that you’re putting things in your calendar that you want to do. I used to not want to be limited by my calendar, but I never put anything in my calendar that I don’t want to do. The only things that go in my calendar are the things that I love to do. It’s 10x more efficient too, because with my calendar organized it allows me to do everything that I want to do, not just some of the things.

Stick to Your Word!

I know, when I first heard the idea of a calendar I was at the same place you are. “Fuck that!” But as a man with a changed opinion, I can tell you that my calendar has organized my life to fit everything that I love to do in it. I find that I’m MORE BUSY but getting LESS DONE when my time isn’t organized properly with my calendar. Especially when you decide to take yourself seriously on the path to self – development. There’s a lot that needs to get done in a day, and if you don’t have it all organized sometimes it’s hard to get out of bed.

My recommendation to you is this: As I did, sign up for a G – Mail. Smartest thing you will ever do. The calendar option that you get with your account will allow you to fit everything that you love to do in your life. Update it nightly! It takes 5 minutes, and the benefits of organization are enormous. I felt an instant relief, seeing my schedule for the week mapped out in front of me. I find that I’m able to be a man of integrity, and be the places that I say I’m going to be, when I make plans with people. It’s easy to avoid double – booking and ditching on the plans that seem the ‘least fun’ for the moment if you have your week organized.

Get on it, son! It may be the smartest thing that you could do with 10 minutes of your day, next to eating a bowl of Fruit Loops.

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3 Awesome Benefits of Being Single

Modern day philosopher and lifestyle enthusiast, Jo Mac has taken the time to write a post for Kingpin Lifestyle. Jo is a man driven by passion and growth, his ability to work hard in the most efficient means possible open up many doors for Jo’s bright future. If you want to get in contact with Jo, or hear more about his story, contact him here

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It’s Friday night. You call up your best friend. The best thing to do would be to get hammered wasted at the Local Pub and talk about the week, right?!

“Hey Bro. Can’t make the Pub tonight, I’m hanging out with the girlfriend.”

You’re a Single Man

So you’re single. Don’t worry, I feel you. And so do other single men out there. “I am single” you say to yourself, because that is reality, it just is. What you choose to make of it is up to you, because there’s a positive and a negative to every situation. You can choose to bask in the glory of being single, spending your free time meeting new people, or you can sit at home on your friday nights playing video games. The flipside is not always the easiest.

While dwelling upon the negatives, it’s not the easiest thing in the world to be single. Especially when it seems like “everyone around you is finding someone, but you.” This isn’t the truth, but now that you’re focused on the negatives (you being alone) it seems like you are the ONLY one that feels this feeling (you’re alone, right!?)  But hey, it’s not the end of the world. Besides it’s not like you’ll be single forever, just single for now. Right now is the present moment, and you should be embracing it!

This was a conversation I had plenty of times with a buddy of mine, which sparked this post. It simply went like this…

“Man I haven’t been laid in months!” says my buddy.

“Oh dude, tell me about it!” I replied.

Oh yes, the sexual frustration talks of single people. We’ve all been there at one point or another. Until you decide to take yourself seriously, the perils of single life can be seemingly devastating. Most people aren’t fortunate enough to have found their passion, so being single means that their free time is spent alone, unproductive.

Now first things first, I’m not writing to give you the step by step process on how to get laid. Nor am I going to share with you my sexual frustrations, that won’t be necessary. I will however share with you 3 awesome benefits of being single to survive while you’re on your own. Being single isn’t easy; however it can be awesome and simple at the same time.

“Jo Mac, what are the 3 Awesome Benefits of Being Single?”

  1. You have more free time.
    Dude/Dudette, you’re single. I’ll say this as simply as I can…GO OUT AND HAVE FUN! Don’t use this time to mope and envy those who are in relationships! Use this time to enjoy activities by yourself. Enjoy the company of your friends and family, who probably misses your company! Also this is the perfect time to meet new people. You now have so much more time to do pretty much whatever you want with whomever you want. Use it to your advantage.
  2. Upgrade yourself for the better.
    Since you have more time, use it in upgrading yourself. Hit the gym (you probably gained some love chub), learn a new language, read books that interest you (put down that PS3 controller and read!), go travelling, learn how to dougie, clean your room, get a new haircut style… the list is endless! Upgrade yourself to what your heart desires. When you upgrade yourself for the better, the quality of your life becomes better, including the women/men that you attract. Having skills and abilities makes one valuable. The more valuable you are, the more “high value” people you will attract into your life, friends and lovers.
  3. Flirt (guilt free).
    I’m a huge believer that we are all natural flirts. And what’s the fun in being single if you don’t flirt. While you’re upgrading yourself, you’ll be exposing yourself to new experiences, knowledge and people (specifically the opposite sex). This is your opportunity to mingle with anyone, anywhere. YOU… ARE… SINGLE! Flirt with the cutie you’ve been eyeing at work, in the gym, at the coffee shop, in the airplane!

If you don’t know how to flirt or at the very least spark up a conversation, email me and we’ll talk, it’s easier than you think.

Being single isn’t the end for you bro/sista; it’s actually a new beginning and a new chapter that you can write to your liking. It’s a new opportunity to focus and fall in-love with yourself.

Not only will you get a chance to get to know yourself on a personal level, but you will also get a chance to meet new people and gain new experiences. Being aware of the 3 AWESOME Benefits allows you to progressively move your life forward. This is an article you can read, deciding to take the first step towards self – betterment, and optimization of your single life. This could lead to having a kick-ass lifestyle and potentially even lead you to meeting that new special person that’s right for you.

This post is just to outline MY three awesome benefits. What are YOUR top three benefits to being single? Comment on this article, and subscribe to Kingpin Lifestyle!

JM