Here’s How to Take Control of Your Life… NOW.

by Brian

TalkingAre you sick of things happening to you? It’s time for you to start making things happen.

You’ve probably got pretty good social skills. In fact you’ve probably never thought about it until now. You seem to live a life you don’t mind. You make good money at your job. Your friends are pretty cool. School is alright. You do live a good life, and up to this point you’ve learned everything all on your own. But I have a question…

How FAST are you growing?

Perspective is the most valuable asset we possess. My thoughts being typed onto a keyboard has the power to influence you to change your life. My thoughts being typed on a keyboard also has the power to influence you to look away from your computer screen and click another link.

The truth is that my thoughts have power. My thoughts more powerful with the perspective that they gain. If my thoughts have power that means that YOUR thoughts have power. You have the exact same power in your thoughts that I do mine. By having control over your thoughts, you have control over your life.

A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.

– Mahatma Gandhi

I’ve come to realize that my perspective is limited based on my personal experience. The way that my brain thinks is a result of the experiences I’ve had up to this point. Experiences caused me to remember certain things and feel certain ways about certain scenarios.

By becoming aware of the experiences that have happened to me up to this point, and being aware of WHY I feel the way that I feel I can CHOOSE my thoughts and feelings. The thing is that there were things that were blocked out from my perspective. I couldn’t see negative behaviours because I had lived with myself for so long. It was only when I allowed people who understood relationships to help me grow beyond my negative habits that I came into the power that I have.

If I did it, so can you.

I was always good with people. I didn’t have all the girls that I wanted when I was younger but I was always good with people. My perspective in the past year has grown so strong. I realize now that it’s not because of the things that I was thinking about that changed my life. People I surrounded myself with gave me THEIR perspective that changed the way that I thought, which changed my life.

My perspective is limited based on my life experience. Once I found people that had more experience than me, they made me aware of things I thought about that made me feel negative about myself, life, even my worthiness. Any moment that I spend feeling a negative emotion is a moment in time that I will NEVER get back.

Live is about learning to love everything.

You want perspective? Instead of my perspective how about this… ask yourself. Ask yourself what you think about in your daily life. Do you like your job? Do you have healthy family relationships all around? How about the friends that you have. Do you enjoy spending time with them? Do you have all of the financial abundance, personal growth, business mindsets, hobbies you enjoy and options you love? … if not… why not? By learning how to gain control over the thoughts that you have you will take control over your life.

Random ThoughtsThe perspective that will help you grow will be perspective that has more experience than you. Experience is necessary for understanding. The constant variable in every area of life is relationships. Experience with relationships — with yourself, with others and with your environment — gives you control over the life you want to live. Perspective grows with experience, and experience grows with perspective.

Every day that we open our eyes we begin interacting with ourselves. Our thoughts begin to roll and the self – dialogue we create influences the events in our day. Negative thoughts? Negative day. Positive thoughts? Positive day. Full of hatred? Become more aware of things that piss you off. Full of love? Become more aware of things that make you feel good.

You are interacting with yourself every day you live. You are also interacting with other people every day that you live. The relationship that you have with yourself and the relationship that you have with other people has the power to give you anything and everything that you could ever have in life.

But wait…

The relationship with yourself and with other people also has the power to take away everything that you could ever want in life. The truth is this:

You Have Power.

You have the power to choose whether you live an extraordinary, fulfilling life or the opposite. A life of negativity is a life of your choosing. You must first understand why you think the way that you think. You cannot do it on your own though; otherwise it would have already been fixed.

Albert Einstien
“A man cannot solve a problem in the same state of mind he created it.”
Albert Einstein

I did it on my own for a long time. I grew by myself. I THOUGHT I was growing a lot more than I actually was. I inflated my self – virtue to cover up the fact that I was hurting on the inside. I spoke louder and more obnoxiously, I smoked more marijuana and I drank more liquor.

There came a day when I woke up and realized that I wasn’t happy with where I was at. It was comfortable, and it was fun… but inside I KNEW I wasn’t living up to my full potential. I invite you now to ask yourself the same question. Are you living up to your potential?

Money comes, money goes. Time is a price that can never be repaid. Time is a debt that only grows larger no matter how much you try to get it back. Don’t waste your time. My thoughts in this present moment have the power to change your life. Are you willing to accept my perspective?

About Brian
Brian is a firm believer in living in the present. Brian lives his life by the philosophy “Act for the future, not because of the past.” He is a passionate writer, a sober socialite and aspires to be a positive influence to everyone he interacts with. Read more about Brian here.

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Ryan D March 5, 2012 at 11:37 pm

Yeah, I can sink my teeth into this article. Today despite a bunch of annoying crap happening, I never allowed a negative thought to dwell in my mind. It ended up being a really great day. The trouble will be to remain consistent with it. I’ll keep this article in mind in ordee to avoid that. Great article.

Brian Mark March 6, 2012 at 9:46 am

Thanks Ryan! I appreciate the support homie. Negative thoughts are there to limit our progress. As soon as we allow a negative thought to dwell we take away from the potential progressive thoughts we could have.

Thanks for commenting bro! Much appreciated.

Pete March 6, 2012 at 11:41 pm

You’re right, “any moment that [you] spend feeling a negative emotion is a moment in time that [you] will NEVER get back.” But is that a bad thing? I think feeling negative emotion is a natural part of living, of growing, of the human experience, per se.

What l think is important is how we respond to negative emotions. Do we self-medicate with food, drugs, alcohol, sex, formulate abusive relationships, etc. (externally induced fixes) to numb negative emotions, or do they meet negative emotion with the required self-awareness, understanding, and perspective (internally induced remedies) to surpass them. You’re right, “you have the power to choose whether you live an extraordinary, fulfilling life or the opposite” and it all begins with thoughts.

I’ll leave you with a quote that captures my thinking behind the evolution of thoughts:

Sow a thought and you reap an act.
Sow an act and you reap a habit.
Sow a habit are you reap a character.
Sow a character and you reap a destiny.
Frank Outlaw

Thanks for the quality read! Keep ’em coming!

Brian March 7, 2012 at 12:30 am

” But is that a bad thing? I think feeling negative emotion is a natural part of living, of growing, of the human experience, per se.”

Interesting perspective! I completely agree with you pete, I think it is a natural part of living. I had a conversation with a client today and he brought to my attention that life is a flow of “up and down” emotion. The idea then, is to get that up and down flow headed more in the direction of positive. That brings to mind the idea of “the higher the highs the lower the lows…” but I think the highest highs stay relatively high even when they’re low.

Love the quote! So sick. Do you have any books you’d recommend reading? And thanks for the appreciation and support Pete! It means alot brother.

Pete March 7, 2012 at 7:52 am

Take 20 minutes and check out this TED video touching on the power of vulnerability: http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html. If anything else comes to mind I’ll fire you off another note.

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